We Were Taught To Remember

Memorial Day in the United States is a holiday designated for remembering servicemen who died during wars. My mother and father had framed photos of our family members who died in World War II that would be displayed on the dining room table all day long. At mealtime they were moved to a sideboard and when we said Grace before meals my father would mention them individually. When we got older two family friends were added who died in Vietnam. We grew up knowing what branch of service they were in, what part of the world they served, and exactly where they lost their lives. My sister still does this with her family, and I do it too even though I live alone. As a child I thought this was a common tradition, but when I got older I realized no one else we knew did this. Does anyone else have a similar family tradition for Memorial Day? Or did my sister and I grow up to be a couple of morbid weirdos ?
KatiaG KatiaG
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3 Responses May 30, 2011

As a retired combat veteran I thank you for remembering those who paid the ultimate price. They are the real heroes. May God bless you and your family.

In the UK we have Rememberance Day and it is held on the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month (11am on November 11th each year). There are wreath laying parades throughout the country on the 2nd Sunday of November. Poppies are worn by most people prior to this day. Regardless of what day it falls upon at 11am on November 11th 2 minute silence is held throughout most of the UK. <br />
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However, I do not know of anyone who remembers in a similar fashion to your family. I like the sound of how your family address the issue and they show respect and gratitude for the sacrifices made by those who were killed or injured defending us and our ideals. I would not consider your family morbid or weird in their behaviour. It shows that they do not forget the sacrifice made. Also I am pleased to see that the rememberance has been passed on to those of a later generation who may never have met the the family member being remembered. <br />
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Many of us have lost friends and family in times of war. My father lost his brother in the war against Japan in WW2. I have lost friends in the conflicts in Northern Ireland and the Falklands and still remember those friends with fondness and thanks. Each rememberance day I parade with others to show our rememberance. I also teach so on those occasions where 11am falls on the 11th November I ask my class to observe a 2 minutes of silence. Most do so willingly but some (especially the young) ask why. To those I explain why and I have never had anyone refuse to comply. <br />
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So continue to remember in a way that is meaningful to you. Those who have been killed or are now struggling to cope after injury deserve at the very least to be remembered. But more importantly still they deserve our continued help and support for the injured and families of those lost.

yes i had this tradition when i was younger as my great grandfather died in ww1 - so you both are not weird , i think people who sacrificed there lives for us should be remembered!