Why Do You Think About These Things?

The other night I was having a conversation with my husband about a tendency I believe I have (during any conversation I may have with anyone at any time) to get stuck very rigidly on one train of thought to the extent that if the other person mentions something that is not directly relevant to the original topic, I will just completely not register it. At times this has resulted in the embarrasing situation that I have asked the other person a question which they had actually just answered a moment earlier, only I hadn't registered it then! People usually give me a funny look when this happens - undoubtedly thinking: "I just told you that 5 seconds ago!" My husband replied that he had noticed this, but then he said to me: "I don't know why you think about those kind of things!" (He's not a very existentially minded type of person.) I replied that I DO think about those kind of things, because to me they are the very fabric of what it is to be a human and a lot of "those kind of things" are not just obvious givens to me! I reckon there should be more explicit teaching in school about just how to "be" in life. I guess I mean not really how to just "be", but how to "be appropriately" - to any given situation. There is a very complicated set of body language cues, verbal cues and even actions and tone of voice that are hidden in every social exchange. Mastering these may come naturally to some, but not to others, and I fall into the latter category!

pennylarana pennylarana
31-35, F
Mar 25, 2009