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We should teach our kids that they need to accept and be nice to others regardless of their strengths and weaknesses. They should be taught not to judge a book by its cover and coexist with all kinds of individuals, but not to be mean or cruel to them. Dylan Clebold and Eric Harris was abused and mocked on a daily basis at school, and that's what caused them to retaliate by murdering everyone there, until they ended up taking their own lives. I'm not excusing them for their actions, since their are more constructive ways to handle your feelings, but children have to be aware that if they are working at a job and there is a coworker there who they don't like because of how they look or talk, doesn't mean they must ridicule that coworker. They need to realize that they won't be able to get along with each other, but they have to manage to be in the same presence as the person they dislike for whatever reasons of their own. Kids must understand that there are most likely stuff about them that others don't like either, but they still should be civil towards them too.

MySweetLord MySweetLord 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 2, 2009

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I want to thank you deeply for this story. So many people never seem to acknowledge the pain that murderers, such as these two boys, experienced before the event and in turn caused the event. If we only had more compassion in the world, then a lot of people could be saved. I don't believe that what they did was right whatsoever, but I can't help but have a soft spot for both of them because I too experienced extreme bullying. I would encourage anyone who reads this to read "Nineteen Minutes" by Jodi Picoult and the section in the book "Far From The Tree" by Andrew Solomon where Dylan's mother, Sue Klebold, speaks up about her son.

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That is a very true thing you just said. Well written.

That's why we were taught to coexist with everyone because we will never be able to get along with everybody, since we all have a variety of personalities and certain personalities don't mix with with others. So, we need to to teach children to coexist with everyone, regardless if not everybody is our type or we don't like how they look or how they talk. We must teach them that their might be people who don't like them for similar reasons, maybe more.

I'm not saying bullying is okay. I'm just acknowledging the fact that it will never go away. Just like racism, homophobia, and other discrimation... bullying will always exist, even if on the "down low". <br />
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Sure, we can try to teach children that bullying is wrong, and hurtful. Most likely they'll do it anyway, just because of the pressures of our society, and it even gives certain individuals a "high". <br />
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And believe me, they will grow up to bully each other at work - I've been the victim of it myself. A 40-something lady thought she was prettier than me (she was) and wanted my then-boyfriend. She said nasty things about me and turned a group of co-workers against me. It reminded me of something that would happen on a playground.<br />
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So, I'm not saying bullying is acceptable. I'm just saying that the sun will always set at night, rise in the morning, and bullying will never change. All attempts to change it would be a big waste of time, not to mention frustrating.

abercrombie, so what you are saying is just because we may not get along with everybody, they should be allowed to bully one another instead of coexist with each other? I'm not condoning Dylan and Harris for their actions, nor am I excusing it, if that's what you are disputing about with me. However, if we don't teach our youths to coexist with other people and their personalities now, when they are old enough to get jobs and they don't connect with certain co workers, you mean to say that they could bully each other at work?

There's no way we will stop children from bullying each other. I've witnessed middle-aged adults, not to mention senior citizens engage in taunting behavior I'd expect to see in a middle school. It's a part of life, stemming from fear and repulsion of people who are different.<br />
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Our society only encourages the harassment, with all the weight we place on physical appearance and social connections. Those who aren't as "high" as their peers will hear about it, no matter what their age. <br />
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Shooting at random people still isn't warranted. I've started to read a book that was written about the Columbine shooters - Columbine - that describes what they were really like. Eric was a sociopath, and Dylan was depressed and maybe even mentally ill. These factors influenced them to commit a massacre. The fact that they were bullied may have just facilitated it. <br />
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The majority of people bullied won't commit a crime like this. Sadly, there will always be events like Columbine speckled throughout history. Just look at the recent tragedy at Ford Hood.

No lesson was learned. Kids will always ridicule the ones who seem different just as adults do. We can do our best to teach and influence our children but it is a long proven and sad fact that their peers will influence most of them to a much greater extent than any parent. I wish it was different, I wish that being different was ok but I doubt we will ever see a time when it is the case. Kids are cruel. Adults are just as cruel. Just witness some of the ridiculous drama that goes on here.

I feel sorry for the victims, their families, the two who did the killing, and their families as well. The kids at Columbine underestimated them and what they had up their sleeves. Unfortunately, people end up learning a valuable lesson the hard way.

beautiful, beautiful comment and i agree 200%. sadly--many do not agree and consider the shooters 'bad seeds' ---or, do not give any of it a second thought, even. then these same huge amount of people will ask, 'why, oh why do things like that happen'???