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Who Will.

I don't think that any one ever really get's over their past. We are products of our pasts.
Whatever traumas we may have experienced in the past how we have dealt with that trauma has shaped who we are.
For those of us who nurture or genetics has blessed with great inner strength what didn't kill us has made us stronger wiser people.
Sadly for those who lack inner strength, and that is no one's fault it's just bad luck, they may be permanently damaged, bitter, scared or unable to forgive or trust.
Whatever your story you are I believe a product of your past.
For better or for worse.
  
  
AlmostAristotle AlmostAristotle 61-65, M 10 Responses Apr 28, 2011

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Agreeing with GoogleyEye...a great deal of my problem is that I was really indoctrinated to believe that there is something wrong with me...something innate, and it was done early and well enough that it's a constant struggle to believe otherwise.

I totally agree, our past does make us who we are today

Thanks for reading, and thanks for commenting. On reflecttion I think I could have thought this piece through a little more thoroughly.

Heh, sorry to be such a hard-*** about it, Almost! :)

GoogleyEye, I've just read this post through for the first time since I posted it. I realise that where i'd typed nature I'd meant to type nurture. I've corrected it now. Irecently wrote a story called 'i'm still here' inwhich I emphasise the importance of nurture in my upbringing.

"For those of us who nature or genetics has blessed with great inner strength what didn't kill us has made us stronger wiser people."

What you're calling "inner strength" sounds like at least partly a result of having been lucky enough to have had enough nourishing/supportive early life experiences (i.e. during one's formative years). The clinical research and experience in this shows pretty clearly that much more can be attributed to formative life experiences than to anything genetic.

"Sadly for those who lack inner strength, and that is no one's fault it's just bad luck, they may be permanently damaged, bitter, scared or unable to forgive or trust."

I think that being "able to forgive" has a lot to do with how much there is to forgive, and also with how straightforward or convoluted the things to forgive might be. People talk very simplistically about forgiveness. Often people are told they "must" forgive, but this frequently serves the interests of the forgived more than the forgiver.

I have been frequently told by someone close to me that I tend to hold too closely to my past.



I am sure that is true, but it's not always easy to let that go.



Some past events are too stark and vivid to release....



-marcus

That's my girl hitting back x.

Wise words from a wise man. We are products of our past. I see mistakes and challenges as opportunities to take a step up in life. Fate hits you, you hit back and take what's yours! :D

I absolutely love what you wrote, I agree completely. That was refreshing to see someone with similar beliefs on our pasts. You're brilliant, sir. :)

Erm.... yea......... right. Thanks fo commenting.

we are they is no question about that it has an effect on what we become. i look at my past and what it may have been if some one had not stood up for me at 12 years old and said it stops now and they took me home and made me part of a family,

it had to havebeen hard on them they knew my past the abuse the night mares but she also shared with em thee sceret tha only a few knew, I went from being best friends with her son the others knew with the real child the girl that was forced to live as a boy thanks to a doctor

even after i was told the truth she never tried to change how we slept on visits

her child had gone to wear i worked so much the owener putthem to work too so we both words 30 hours a week and went to school ful time and still had GPAs ov over 3.8

and we had a good life tillit ened in 1967 due to my wifes death and her mother killing her self thing we both were dead