I Cannot

I cannot marry. It is an amoral, outmoded, patriarchal State institution which bestows privilege and benefit on those who play the game. And it's only open to one kind of relationship. One style of love. The upholding of a status quo where people become the implied and basically explicit property of each other, under the idea that this is some higher state of love. Indeed that marriage is the paramount proof thereof.

To me, it looks like possession to me.

Furthermore, I could only marry a female partner in most states. Monogamy would be expected. In my experience, both of these things are not viable for me. I have found love and commitments (I do make those to a partner or partners) to not be a barrier to love and commitments for myself, and should they agree, my partners.

And of course, there is the matter of my attraction to men as well.

All and all, For political, social and romantic beliefs and reasons, I cannot marry.

But even if some of those factors shifted, I would not. Not legally, not officially.

Love and commitment are to be defined by lovers. Not states, not churches
(unless lovers choose) not papers.

I am curious, if other people find themselves in similar situations, and thus here, I am curious about alternative arrangements, rituals, and commitments made outside of officially state approved formats. If y'all wouldn't mind sharing.

xjustjikaix xjustjikaix
26-30, M
Dec 8, 2012