A 7 Year Old Is Taking Away My SanityFor those of you that do not know, I am raising my 7 year old nephew. His mother died of cancer two years ago. My mother in-law got custody and she abused him emotionally and physically.
The first several months were good. There were issues, but nothing too big for me to handle. He would throw tantrums over small things, like wanting it to be his turn on the computer etc. When he would throw a fit, I would wait until he settled down. Then I would explain to him that although there would have been a possibility of getting his way if he would have come to talk to me in a civil way, now that he did it with a tantrum, if I gave him his way, I would be rewarding bad behavior. So, now instead he would have to take a break from the computer for a while. I believe any punishment should fit the crime. I also give rewards for good behavior. This was working. When he had good days, there were rewards.
Now his episodes have escalated to him screaming obscenities, throwing things, slamming doors, and banging his head against hard ob
Yes, he is in counseling. She's great with him and he opens up to her, but she does not have children and every suggestion she has given me has not worked. He also participates in therapeutic horseback riding where he gets therapy for PTSD.
I am finding myself having to step away to the far end of the house to get un-angry so that I don't over react. None of my biological children would dare to disrespect me in any of the ways that this 7 year old has. They all know that through disrespect like screaming at me, they will get nothing. I keep open communication with them, so that they can share in a civil way how they feel.
I am feeling beat down, overwhelmed, and sometimes in tears by a mere 7 year old. If anyone here has faced circumstances like mine, please share any suggestions you might have.
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