If Only Time Stood Still...

My boyfriend hasn't been deployed yet, but in October he will be headed over to Afghanistan. I'm so nervous. He's so young; only eighteen years old. I guess the reason I'm so nervous is because when he goes over there, he will be driving trucks and whatnot. He has a seventy five percent chance of NOT making it back alive. The closer it gets the more I don't want to leave his side. We spend every day together. Some days we don't do anything except lay in bed watching movies. But it's days like that that I'm going to miss most. (as selfish as that sounds, I don't mean it that way, honest) Not only is he my boyfriend, he's also my best friend. We've been best friends all our lives, we literally grew up together. I went through everything with him. I'm freaking out already, and we still have eight months ahead of us. I feel like a little kid counting down the days until their birthday, but I'm not counting down for anything that'll make me happy. Given he will be serving our country and I thank him for that, I'll miss him. I give him props; I couldn't imagine doing the things he's done. He's so much stronger than I am, mentally, physically, emotionally. He's my everything.

I'm sorry for all you ladies who's boyfriends/fiances/husbands are over seas. But I thank all of them. And thank you ladies for being so strong, for the support.

ArmyGirlfriend01012010 ArmyGirlfriend01012010
18-21, F
2 Responses Feb 22, 2010

I'm doing 12 months in Iraq right now and coming back to the U.S in August, but Afghanistan was my last deployment in 2008 for 15 months. Physically, I'm making it through the deployments and I'm sure your boyfriends have just as much chance to make it home safely as I have. Emotionally is the real danger, as it will be hard on both of you and it can wear on your bonds if you're not careful. It's important that as a couple, you and your deployed significant-other must not try to work through relationship problems until after the deployment. We (soldiers) deal with stress factors over here that tend to amplify the issues and arguements will eventually spin out of control when they occur because of all the other intense crap we're dealing with. Avoid arguing at any cost! Lest your relationship end up like mine, falling into oblivion because my best friend gave up on supporting me and instead focused on distracting herself with other people. The biggest reason why I began hating her was simply because I felt like she didn't understand what I was going through and I felt neglected because she never even bothered sending care packages until after I started asking for stuff 9 months into the deployment. It's important that your soldiers know that you care about them throughout the deployment because sometimes it's easy to feel alone in these isolated situations and harsh conditions. If it seems like they're turning against you or engraged with you, try not to take it personally because they're probably just venting for the most part. Best way to deal with that angry deployment stress is to respond with words of understanding, even saying things like "That must really suck" makes a big difference. You don't have to be super nice, but just try your best to grasp what they're talking about. And remember to give yourselves some personal time too and enjoy yourselves, because being seperated WILL make you irritable and you'll both be clashing to no-end if atleast one of you doesn't keep a clear head.

it helps when there's other people going through the same thing. thanks for everything. the sad part is I don't think the reality has hit me yet. I don't think it will until he's really gone and I can't talk to him or see him. I'm so scared!<br />
I'm here for you as well, anything you need.