Breaking Down

My life is falling apart right in front of me and I can't fix it. I've been married for almost 3 years and I'm so happy. There's been times where I'm not happy, but when it comes down to it i'm very happy. My husband isn't happy. We fight a lot as of recently and it's tearing us apart. I've never loved anyone as much as I love him, but he wants to call it quits. My heart is so broken and I don't want to leave him. I want to stay together and fix it, but he thinks it's too late. I'm breaking down everyday more and more looking at him knowing that he doesn't want me anymore. I look at our daughters and I break down. I don't want them growing up without him in their lives, and I don't want to conitue my life without him. I don't know what to do anymore. I try to fix my problems but it's hard. I'm trying to keep strong for my girls but I just can't anymore. He doesn't understand how much I love him and how much I want him in my life. I'm not ready to just give up yet, I'm ready to fight. My life is falling apart and there's nothing I can do.
shrimp1126 shrimp1126
22-25, F
4 Responses Sep 16, 2010

a man without respect loses his identity - it casts a shadow upon his soul<br />
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a woman without love becomes empty & void - like a vase without any water<br />
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both are ingredients in marriage - w/o one the other dies

O let me make one more comment. Non going church people today. Don't see the seriousness of marriage they live together. one reason for less divorces. Not saying all don't take it serious. There are still some good people out there that don't know Jesus and seeking his help in their marriages They just need Jesus to come into their hearts to make their marriages even better. :-)

Even though the GOD comment is valid there are still problems with people in church.<br />
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Why is it that the divorce rate is higher in church going people than in non-church going people?<br />
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This is nothing against you "Kinswoman1" as you have made an effort to help which shows the true meaning of compassion.<br />
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If we look at the problem at hand and fix it with solutions directed specifically at solving that issue, chances are the success rate would be higher.<br />
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I'm not here to be critical of another persons comments...just wanted to target "shrimp1126" problem with what I know has been proven to help.<br />
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My advice is to look into "Ultimate Edge" by Tony Robbins.<br />
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This has helped many marriages that were on the brink of collapse and instilled the love that seems to die after trials hit.<br />
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Let me know if you can't find it as I have a copy!<br />
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Sorry I haven't responded on your comment in so long. It's been a long time since I've been in this website. I will comment on it now to maybe help someone. You asked why are there so many divorces in the church? That comment is so sad. but true. The enemy comes to kill, steal, destroy. The word of God says my people perish because of the lack of knowledge. I believe the church has got so into the world way of doing things instead of reaching for the knowledge of God's word and obeying it. We as a born again believer has the authority over the enemy who comes to destroy. And obeying what God's instructions' are to do. There will always be problems in the church. It's made up of imperfect people. Church is the gathering place for Christian's to worship together and learn. We must keep our focus where it needs to be. You can't look at other people lives and expect that your's will be the same way. We are accountable for our action's. Relationships must and should have a Christ centered help. Doing things in our own strength will fail. And we need all the help we can get in this world. God is love. It isn't His character to want any one to perish and have a divorce. I believe that God has the right mate for anyone that is willing to seek Him and ask Him who their mate is. And not all is ment to marry. Singleness isn't a bad thing. God can take a thing that may go bad and turn it into a good thing. Because of pressure from others, and thinking wrong. Allows people to marry when they should have waited on God and finding out what His perfect will is. And that includes people who are in church. Again lack of knowledge. I could share on this more but I will run out of room. I pray this short comment will help someone. God bless.

When we get into situation's where we know in our own strength we cannot do nothing. You didn't mention a spiritual life. I have the answer if your open to listen. One anger is selfish. Selfishness is one that will tear any relationship up. Bringing a higher power into your relationship is the answer. Jesus has the answer for you. He can come and restore and heal. Got to forgive your husband. And forgive your self. Forgiveness will open the channal for God to begin to work in your life. If you don't know Jesus as your personal savior. Ask him to come into your heart. He will bring you peace and joy like no one else can give. God is all knowing he understands your situation. Read Romans chapter 10 verses 9,10. Will tell you how to become born again. I did just that 37 yrs ago. And the Lord has always shown himself faithful and all powerful in my life. I've seen so many prayers answered. When you become His he will reveal himself to you one day one step at a time. You come to him just as you are. He can heal and restore your marriage. I could go on and on. If your interested contact me. I'm here to answer any question's you may have. It's not easy to share it all in one note. From your story I see fear, worry, discouragements, hurts all around. God is a God of miracles nothing impossible to him. Have a great day. God Bless You and Your family.