I Long For a Best Friend

I want a best friend so bad it's killing me.  I couldn't have a husband or a boyfriend, things didn't turn out that way, and every time I think I have made a really good friend I lose them.  I so long for someone to laugh with, to listen to as they tell me about their week, to chat to, share secrets with, be special to.  The emptiness of not being close to anyone is unbearable.

Tibicina Tibicina
41-45, F
3 Responses Mar 4, 2009

I used to feel this way, and what happened was that I (unfortunately) started making some friends who abused my easy-going nature. (because I was so desperate for attention!)<br />
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My advice to you is to try to reconnect with some old friends you lost contact with. Try calling them up once or twice a month, start off slow. Also start making new acquaintances at work/hobbies/etc. This will be an excruciatingly slow process, but eventually you'll find new connections.<br />
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My dad once told me that if you meet 5 decent people your entire life you'll be lucky, and I think he's right. Don't give up, but also don't run into friendships too eagerly because you might just get used or disregarded. Just a little faith, and you'll be alright :-)

Im exacly the same :(

I know exactly how you feel. I'm in my 40's and I don't have a best friend either. I am married and my husband is my "best friend" but it isn't the same. I would love to have someone to talk to about things I can't talk to him about, someone to go out and have coffee or a drink with, someone to talk to on the phone or chat with on the computer.<br />
I've had friends in the past and they hurt me more than some men have. That is why I don't have a best girlfriend anymore. I just can't take the pain and disappointment.