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To Change Or Not To Change

Sometimes I think if I knew then what I know now . I could have a different life . Not so many hard times and heartache .

I could have avoided so many tears and fears . But then I realize because of these hard times  hard lesson fought and learned , I am the person I am today . Which gave me the life I have , and the friends and loved ones I have in my life . And suddenly the prospects of easier times , better memories and
not so many bumps in the road does not seem as tempting as it did .

I like who I am , how I think and the people I care for and who care for me . I like the fact that I was taught to use my past to recognize the need in others
for the compassion and help I myself had wanted and sometimes did not receive .

so I guess if I knew then what I know now the only thing that would have changed  is feeling  stronger .I would not have let  myself feel as alone and sink in  despair as I did at times knowing that in the future , things would indeed change , and that I would be a better person for it .
softkitti softkitti 22-25, F 65 Responses Nov 13, 2011

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I really don't see the point in stopping children from experiencing the uncomfortable things in life, because it shapes us, and balances us. Most people are taught that it is bad to experience negative things; that they are not meant to experience it because bad things happen to bad people. Like, for instance, a teen girl decides to experiment with drugs, and they see it as a bad thing. They see themselves as bad, so they must to bad things, for all the punishments they have gotten in their life. Or they could see themselves as good, and always put others before themselves. Then there is the notion that bad things happen to good people, and good things happen to good people. It goes all ways, and i see it as that things just happen, and it does not define who we are as people.

I don't think I've ever looked back at life and thought: "If only this that or the other hadn't happened." It's happened. We try to be grateful for what we have and make the best of it with what we have.

Interesting outlook, Kitti. I like it. Most of the time, life tends to mold us into who we are as people. For instance, one could live a life in shelter away from the real world, then one day they find themselves thrown into the battlefield with no battle strategy, but those who've been on the grounds for a time will have a better outlook on how to defeat their enemies. Battle hardened as they say. Not always the case, though, some can figure their way through the thick by sitting back and thinking about the struggles of others and envisioning themselves in the same scenario. Deep thinker's as they say.<br />
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Now that I think about it, this kinda reminds me of "Broken, Beat, and Scarred" from Metallica. "What don't kill you'll make you more strong". Odd wording, but I think Hetfield really nailed it with that one.

I agree. To change things from past would change who you are now,someone strong enough to realize that the past is the past is part of who you are even all the bad besides no such thing as a perfect life.

Thank you play .. I agree 100% with you , I always have hope though that little by little that society may change small bits by small bits and more and more peeps reach out their hand to their fellow man . I have been called naive , dreamer .. etc . .. But I still think its possible . Thank you again for your comment and compliment =-)

I'm glad that you think this way! I've rolled this idea around many times and I can never find a situation that if I had changed would have given me an long term benefits. we are all a product of our experiences and as hard as it is sometimes to see what you really needed back then yet never received. it truly takes a big person to recognize that need in others and give it to them now. I don't think a lot of people look back, learn and offer their assistance to others. It seems more common for people to sit back and allow others to struggle and figure it out on their own. It's almost as if they feel like because nobody was their for them then they don't need to be there for others. from what I've read of your posts you have a great way to view life. Thanks for sharing.

Thank you for your comment king .. <br />
And thank u for the link useful I will be sure to take a look =-)

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good idea.this is all who are on top must think of sometimes just a little help can lift someones faith.as the little tablet of drug can alleviate someones pain and bring a smile on his/her face so as the little we can offer can bring a big smile of someones face. God bless you for ya good idea.

good idea.this is all who are on top must think of sometimes just a little help can lift someones faith.as the little tablet of drug can alleviate someones pain and bring a smile on his/her face so as the little we can offer can bring a big smile of someones face. God bless you for ya good idea.

you have rightly hit the nail on the head.sometimes i also think the same and wonder if i were not wise enough but i keep encouraging myself and move ahead in life.as the saying goes life is how you make it,at the end of the day you will be judge by your success and not what you went through.

Thank you for sharing this. I'm so close to turning that corner myself and finally feel that who I am now was worth all that past, so I found this inspiring.

I am glad you see the positive side instead of blaming your problems on it. I just think it is crazy how so many people can look back on their experiences and grow as a person. It's people like you that inspire me to be... me :)

I am glad you see the positive side instead of blaming your problems on it. I just think it is crazy how so many people can look back on their experiences and grow as a person. It's people like you that inspire me to be... me :)

*rocks out with original and plays air guitar * thanks for your comment .=-D

So I'd say that..<br />
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You Rock..!!<br />
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Keep up the same..

So..I'd say..You Rock..!! :) <br />
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Keep up the same...

*high fives jakeiesieber * I wish you peace , success and everything good in the world !=-)

"I like who I am , how I think and the people I care for and who care for me . I like the fact that I was taught to use my past to recognize the need in others<br />
for the compassion and help I myself had wanted and sometimes did not receive ."<br />
This pretty much sums up my life motto. I want to make people happy because when feel like you have nothing to live for it is really hard to escape by yourself, If I can be there for someone and make their struggle a little easier I will know I did something good in the world. I want to help for society, other people, and for myself.

Thank you so much gover I wish u the same !=-)

Life does have 20/20 vision. We live, learn and grow with hopes to have and be in a better place. Good for you in seeing that it is not the things that you needed to change but the feeling from within!! Good luck and hope all your experiences bring you, the best from what you have learned. :)

Yes ccland exactly surviving is something to celebrate for sure !=-)<br />
*high fives brat*=-D<br />
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Wils it most certainly is , life is a constant learning session with some lessons harder to learn than others but those are the ones that teach us the most =-)<br />
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And a way to go to you too Div going on , surviving , freeing yourself from stifling hatred and loving those are such important lessons to learn, consider yourself kitti highfived!=-D

Way to Go Kitty. I think i feel the same. I used to hate and loathe those who pained me and made me suffer, but i am free now of all the hate and loathing...i have learned to love, even those i used to hate so much!

Life is all about learning. They tell us its about having fun...balooney.

I feel the same way. I thought the same things until I thought about my life and now I love the way I am. I am so awesome at times.

I can relate to this. I suffered from severe clinical depression for years - for as long as I can remember - although I didn't know what was wrong until much later. It affected my relationships with my family, isolated me from other people, and affected my career choice and job performance. I finally got effective treatment and I feel like a new person. Sometimes I wonder what my life would have been like if I had not been depressed. I don't let myself dwell on those thoughts because I think that my illness made me stronger and more compassionate in the long run. We who have been through health problems, losses, and other painful life events are survivors. We should celebrate that.

I can relate to this. I suffered from severe clinical depression for years - for as long as I can remember - although I didn't know what was wrong until much later. It affected my relationships with my family, isolated me from other people, and affected my career choice and job performance. I finally got effective treatment and I feel like a new person. Sometimes I wonder what my life would have been like if I had not been depressed. I don't let myself dwell on those thoughts because I think that my illness made me stronger and more compassionate in the long run. We who have been through health problems, losses, and other painful life events are survivors. We should celebrate that.

When I was 18 I threw everything I owned in the back of a car, about 300 bucks in my pocket and took off. <br />
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I was wild, adventurous, but more so I hated everything that I was inside. Part of me wasn't going for the adventure...but, running from who I was... <br />
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Its taken me 6 years... to finally "accept" who I am just wanted to comment... Because those thoughts were the same ones I had... I'f only I had know what I know now... then maybe just maybe life would be better...

You are hilarious! The felt pimp hat killed me. Hey, I wasn't asking you to be pimp for me, I was just asking you to help me find a gorgeous, sweet, honest, trustworthy, faithful, funny, intelligent, interesting, entertaining guy. *hands kitti the pimp hat* Okay, whatever it takes, wear the hat then. : D

Thank you for your comment E , yes that is important for changes to count no?