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Everyone's dream to go back knowing what we know now.  The changes that could be made to rectify our bad decisions, our mistakes.  Changing things for the better.  I don't know if I buy into the-everything happens for a reason idea.  Maybe it's true maybe not.  I would hate to think that having made different decisions would land me exactly where I'm at now.

darlene darlene 41-45, F 10 Responses May 8, 2008

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If I had known then what I know now then I would have never gotten raped (and lots of other horrible things wouldn't have happened), but if I had never gotten raped I would have never learned lessons such as never trust people you do not know, and I would have stayed gullible and naive. Of course I wonder what it would have been like if I had known to not trust someone I did not know, but I have become stronger and more assertive and smarter for what happened. And yes nodody should have that happen to them, but now I realize that when bad things happen it only aids us in finding out more about what we are really like and who we really are, and helps us to mature and become strong assertive and smart Adults. And of course I also think that we can learn things from good experiences too! :)

I believe that my destiny was written before I was born. Now, I'm starting to realize that my own decisions whether wrong or right have led me to my destiny and that God knew what Decisions I was going to make before I made them because he wrote my destiny. I made few mistakes in my life but I don't regret them because they meant to happen and like Joe Public song said "you've got to live and learn." I believe all humans make mistakes, some of us learn from the first time and others keep making their mistakes until they learn the hard way.

I don't know that I'd really want to change much (especially children) ... but if I knew then what I know now there would have been much less internal conflict in me.

I took one of the worst path's there was to take. I am just now getting back on my feet. Am I a better person for having lived through what I did? I don't know. I sometimes hope that my experience will help someone else not make the same mistake or help them pick themselves back up.

Hmm. College.<br />
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Sometimes I think it's just so hard to predict how life would have gone if we had walked down a different path anyway. Maybe if we had done whatever we look back at and wish for now, we would be regretting something else worse.

Nothing like taking a stance, Squirrel ;-)

If I believed that "everything happens for a reason", I would go insane.<br />
Crap's all a roll of the dice.<br />
Maybe<br />

Well, that's kind of my point. Are we destined to be where we are today or is it a result of our decisons?

Grace, you ask tough questions! I guess, one thing would to have not dropped out of college when I did. And motivated myself more to get it finished.

What's something you would fix?