I'm A Planner

I envy those who embrace spontaneity....who can just go with the flow no matter where it takes them. I'm quite the opposite. I'm a planner. I find comfort and security in routines and structure. I need to plan things, even simple things like going to the grocery store or over to visit my parents. I don't know why I'm so rigid about this. There are times I wish I weren't, but doing the unplanned makes me anxious somehow. If my man comes home and says, "hey, lets go do this or do that", I bulk....even when it's something I know I'll enjoy...something that'll be fun. I can't help myself. I'm so used to day-to-day schedules and routines that the idea of just dropping every thing to do something spontaneous stresses me out.

I know I must sound like a terribly uptight and rigid person. I don't think of myself that way, but perhaps I don't see myself clearly. Now I'll take a walk or take my little guy outside to play or to the park on a whim, but most things I want to know I'm doing in advance. My man has learned that he needs to give me at least 24 hours notice if he wants me to go anywhere....it drives him crazy, but I am who I am, and I am NOT spontaneous. Of course there have been times when I've just had to bite the bullet and go with the flow myself, but I'm always anxious...always thinking of the other things I should be home doing - the PLANNED things!
LG76 LG76
36-40, F
2 Responses May 10, 2012

I was aware of the spontaniety between the sheets. I would have never guessed this about you. Have you started planning your next winter vacation?- JK you know me

haha...I'm not THAT bad. I don't plan months ahead, but I do like a few days notice... xo

There is nothing wrong the way you are if more people were like that you would see a big change in this country! But you should balance it out with a little spur of the moment things at times! You can't plan for everything and when your kids get older you will see that! Question when you go some place are you always on time??

I'm always 15 minutes early...If I show up right on time, I FEEL late! lol. And I do have moments when I'm spontaneous, but they're usually in the bedroom :O hahaha