Bluntness Hurts Too Much

I know sugar coating things isn't necissarily the best thing but I still wish more people would do it. I know some people think they are doing the right thing by being blunt and frank. But sometimes it just seems too harsh and it hurts too much. Maybe I'm too sensitive but when I have to hear bad news a little bit of sugar coating does the trick.
brighteyed brighteyed
18-21, F
8 Responses Aug 16, 2007

well sometimes we're going to have to be blunt to give you a point. if you don't want the truth don't ask for it

If you don't want to know the honest, but possibly painful, truth, then why bother to ask the question in the first place?

When I have to tell someone something, I do not sugar coat or tell them bluntly, I think of the person I am telling this to, and then I think of a way to effectively tell them the whole truth, by considering the type of person they are and how they might need to hear a certain thing.

I think the trick is not so much to sugar coat, but to gently lead someone to the point of the full truth. Being competely honest is not the same thing as being brutally blunt and abrupt, and it's not uncommon to see people fail to distinguish between the two.

I guess the problem is when people dont consider the feelings of the "thruthee"

Sometimes it does seem like that. Then they are the people you truly need to stay away from. Those are not real true blue friends.Peace,J

I guess you're right. I guess it's just sometimes it feels like people are being blunt only to hurt you.

Sometimes the truth does hurt. But would you rather have a fib than the honest truth? Yeah, sometimes it does hurt,but,You can learn from it and grow too. Peace,J