Taken In Hand Relationships Are Not AbusiveI absolutely love that my Husband is strong, confident and that he leads our relationship. I love to feel his strength, his reassurance and his dominance. This is never felt stronger than when he is disciplining me.
It drives me crazy when ignorant, misguided people who have absolutely no idea about this way of life, call it "Abuse". They are far too self absorbed to see further than what they want to see, unwilling to take time to find out the truth before making their judgements.
Taken in hand marriages cannot be abusive because they are consensual. We are mature adults who, having all of the facts, have made an informed choice to live this way.
I have been taken in hand by my Husband for more than a year now, I am not abused, damaged or humiliated in anyway. There are fewer arguments, if we do disagree, it is settled and we are able to move on quickly because negative emotions are not left to fester.
I see my Husband as stronger, sexier and this has had an amazing impact on our sex lives. I am calmer, more organised and less stressed than ever before. My husband is gentle and understanding, but not a push over. I appreciate that, because I know like many women do, I would end up taking him for granted otherwise. I am here to stand up for those of us who have domestic discipline marriages. We are not crazy. We not sick. we are not abusive. We have loving, giving marriages with understanding and forgiveness. We choose organisation, boundaries and consequenses as a way of achieving that.
So.... you don't agree? Tough! There are many things on experience project that I don't agree with, I simply keep my opinion to myself. It is really not that difficult!
RobertaSunset 36-40, F 31 Responses 29 Nov 15, 2011