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Fear Of Being Judged By Others.

At the root of community fretfulness lies the fear of being judged by others. In most cases the main reason that makes someone anxious around strangers is the fear of being judged and evaluated by them.Self confidence I explained that self confidence is the lack of obsession about ones weak points and negative aspects, when a person cares about what others think of him he consumes a big part of a his brain's resources in analyzing everything that happens around him and so finds himself anxious around others.This anxiety leads to poor performance and thus feeds the fears and lets them grow even more the next time the person encounters strangers or authority figures. In this article I will tell you how to get over the fear of being judged by others.
You can easily change people’s judgment Two cardboards were brought In front of participants; the first one had one vertical line drawn on it while the second one had three vertical lines, Only one of these lines on the second cardboard was similar in length to the line on the first cardboard while the second and third lines were of significantly different lengths. People who were already part of the game were asked to give incorrect answers when asked which one of the three lines on the second cardboard is similar in length to the one on the first cardboard. After the real participants saw most people answering the question incorrectly most of them answered it incorrectly too!!!
In short this experiment proved that people can make a wrong choice just because the majority had chosen it. So what does this experiment has to do with the fear of being judged by others? In simple words, people’s judgments are fragile and can easily be shaped based on the inputs they collect through their senses. If you managed to send them a strong message that states that you are nice and confident they will believe you even if they thought otherwise in the beginning.
Let me tell you who I am
Instead of being obsessed about being judged by others focus on sending messages that forces people to judge you the way you want. Stick to a confident posture, assertive tone and keep a smile on your face when you great people and you will find them judging your positively.
In the Solid Self confidence program i said that if you became obsessed about being judged by others you won’t perform well and people might then really judge you negatively while if you focused on your performance people will be forced to judge you in a good way (at least most of them) Before you encounter strangers, authority figures or important people don’t tell yourself "now I will let them tell me how they see me" but instead tell yourself "let me tell them who I am"
 
God Bless all of us.
gr8jesus gr8jesus 51-55, M 33 Responses Aug 19, 2010

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This is very helpful to me and a good reminder. <br />
I need to have more self-confidence. <br />
I used to always worry about what people think of me.<br />
And try to be a people pleaser. But then in the long run I end up getting hurt, because<br />
if I do not meet their expectations, then some don't like me.<br />
I've changed a bit now, and accepted the fact that there will always be people who will like me<br />
for who I am and there may be some who may not no matter how I try. <br />
But the ones who appreciate me turns out to be people I also appreciate the most.<br />
And I am happy with that. :)

My pleasure! And Thank u my friend twinangels..I appreciate your comment....:)

This is very helpful, thanx 4 posting it. Hope all is well in yer world. : )

ceywat myh friend Thank you very much for your terrific comment....:)

My friend zhaou If you're doing your best, you won't have any time to worry about failure....:)

Thank you kindly for taking the time to stop be and comment..Sweet of you my friend Delilah5...:)

michnat my friend........Thank you kindly..I appreciate your words...:)

Nice write-up :) i agree with you!

You are sweet solia ..I thank you for your comment...:)

O' that was great! You're so insightful!

Hi my friend jimmyrudyjump What does 'approximatively' mean?...GOD BLESS YOU!...:)

Sorry to be contrary here, gr8jesus, but go tell that to the Japanese and the approximatively 1 billion people in this world who are being starved to death by the greed of our peers...

jimmyrudyjump my friend....God Bless all of us........:)

The test with the cardboard figures and stripes is an excellent example of how people are fooled into religion in the first place...

Ah yes... your words are lovely Thank you so much for a beautiful comment....:)

I was just about to say the same thing as "our friend" OnewithJC, i also remember studying this in psychology,. Excellant post my friend and thank you for sharing!!! :-)

AMEN...AMEN.......:)

I remember studying that in psychology. Very nice, thank you for the refresher! <br />
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Many Blessings from our Father, Brother in Christ! :-D

Thank you kindly..I adore your comment......:)

Very interesting study.

Thank you so much for a beautiful comment my friend perseverer...God bless you...:)

As a teacher, I can readily recognize the truth and importance of what you are saying, especially as it relates to the education of young Christians. Well done!

thank you so much kindly.......God bless you...:)

You are so kind. I am moved by your act.................:)

I always look at meeting new people as a chance to learn and enjoy making a new friend. Even if in time, I find I'm not fond of the person I still hang onto the notion that I met them to learn something. <br />
Maybe I keep myself so distracted with the potential of "learning" that I have never worried much about judgments. I liked this whole post. Nice job and kind thoughts.

Thank you kindly..So sweet of you to comment......:)

Your appreciated my friend unshakable...in fact you have too wisdom and having much knowledge..God bless you forever my friend....:)

Great post.God has blessed you with so much wisdom and willingness to share.

thank you so much my friend InsomniacSeven..........God bless you.....:)

don’t tell yourself "now I will let them tell me how they see me" but instead tell yourself "let me tell them who I am"<br />
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Very nice! I intend to try to etch this indelibly on my brain. Thanks!

good points.

i believe that if mostly u judge urself ..then u believe others judge u in the way u judge urself too...even if ppl will say somethin positive bout u ,u wont believe coz u already judge urself in a way that u believe everyone see urself as u see ,u... although is not u really that wants to judge urself in that way-self esteem n fears etc that r part of someone... eh...good story.

amazing