In Supprt Of Bcboomer58's Comment On No Comments To His Blog:I’m writing this in support of BCBoomer58 who, I think, raises a good point with regard to those who read people’s blogs but can’t take the time out to at least type those two simple words: “Thank You”. His story title of:
“Why Do People Read And Not Comment?”
I am *not* out to win friends by not saying what I feel on this issue; needless so say, this is how I *do* feel in regard to BCBoomer58 ‘s own comment as written on his own thread
[My Response to Bcboomer58' ]
I could give you a few reasons as to why people don’t comment on *anything* they might read; to be honest, it might not go down well for some, but I have a good idea why it happens ... here we go.
When I was Blogging (not here in EP) I had a friends list of over one hundred. I was a frequent Blogger, so I got through a good many Blogs! I would read other’s Blogs, but I would comment on those Blogs that I read; If only to thank them for the read. But mine? … It was hardly ever commented on at all. And then one day I decided to Blog on the issue of people not giving responses; not just to my Blog, to the many others they visited and didn’t respond to also. Suddenly I got responses from all over the place, most of them who had visited and *never* had commented, and they were very defensive of themselves.
The two *biggest* reasons for not responding were.
1) They had read my Blog, but because I had been precise in expressing myself they felt ‘inadequate’ and so decided not to comment at all. (whatever that might mean?)
2) Although they read my Blog, they didn’t have time to comment because they had so many other Blogs to look at; in the interest of ‘fairness’, they didn’t respond.
But, to be honest, the same people who didn’t respond on my Blog went to great lengths to respond to Blogs of those who were close to them in their circle; and so the pattern falls into place. I have seen the *same* thing happen here.
People create their own circle of friends and, mainly, will spend more time viewing and commenting on those Blogs. But then it becomes more complicated, because those who have lots of friends on their list ‘don’t have time’ to comment on all of them … and so they categories who they *prefer* to comment on and (in a sense) it sets up some sort of Loyalty Bond; “S/he comment on mine and so I will comment on his/hers.” Regardless of how many are on their friends list, there will be those they *will* make a concerted effort to visit *and*comment whilst with others they don’t think twice about *not* leaving a comment. And this is within their own friends list.
(I’ve seen a few here just like that; take a look around and see.)
It’s nothing new and it’s been going on for a long, long time and I guarantee that this is one of the main reasons why people have viewers who don’t make comments. I hope that you don’t see this as a cynical view or a cynical comment; I assure you, I have seen this happening over and over again. Circles within circles; that’s exactly what it is.
But nothing can really excuse those who come along to your Blog and read something and say they don’t have, at least, the courtesy to type two words: “Thank you”. If nothing else, it’s shows gratitude and for those who say they don’t have time? Well … I’ll leave you to ponder over that issue :-)
BCBoomer58 : I totally understand your feelings; even though I don't even have a Blog.
knightwhispers 56-60, M 6 Responses 0 Oct 8, 2010