I can write as eloquently as you would like. My mind processes things in such a way that I can make most things look good on paper. My problem is centered on actual conversation. I can't seem to get it right. My mind knows what I am trying to say, but when I speak, I loose the clarity of thought and I come off all wrong. I can write a profound legal document or love letter, but I can't hold a conversation.

NoWhereToGoButUp NoWhereToGoButUp
36-40, F
3 Responses Feb 20, 2010

Maybe you expect too much out of yourselves from the start. Maybe you're just quiet people at the moment. That doesn't mean you can't train yourself to have a conversation, maybe you've always been a bit scared of speaking, maybe you just don't like the intensity of the your turn/my turn to speak format. I really think that if you want something and keep trying for it, and do stuff that challenges you and kind of excercises the muscles you need to do it, you'll at least get better! Try listening intently to what people say, and show interest by saying stuff like, "Really? (not like you don't believe them but you want them to continue), or, "No way. How interesting." or "That's strange, why do you think that?" <br />
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Remember in going for one of your life's goals, if you aim for the moon, even if you miss you'll land among the stars.

I have the exact same problem.<br />
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Actual conversation is immensely frightening sometimes, but in writing, I can come up with the profound and persuasive with ease. Poetry is second nature - after enough thought. If I could speak as well as I could write...<br />
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It is an unfair situation - intelligence often lies hidden.

I can listen.<br />
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I can tell the truth.<br />
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If you can do those tow things, out loud, that's all that's needed. I really like to listen in conversations. All that takes is a nod, an affirmative oh, yes I understand and stuff like that. Nothing profound.<br />
I do carry my book of thoughts with me and refer to it at times, when I trust the other person.