Women Who Can't Have Children

I really do not know which may to turn I got told I had gone though the menapause last October  and since then have tried to concentrate on other things to keep my mind off it. However 4 weeks ago in the same weekend both my brother and sister in law advised they were expecting and both due around the same time! I went numb spent the whole week crying and just didn't know what to do with myself.

I had I chat with my brother who sort of understands about the way I reacted when he told me however his girlfriend is another story. Also when my sister in law told us I was just speechless as we tried to explain about my brother and how both me and my husband would love to be happy for them but we just couldn't say it she stormed out saying she could not believe we had made her feel this way and she would leave us to get our heads around it and we have not heard from her since.

No one seems to understand fully!

I dont think i will ever get my head around it I have asked my family not to talk about whilst I am around the only way I can explain how it makes me feel is sick!

I want to be happy for them I really do and agrue with myself everyday about it but I'm not sure how this is going to go but the thought of the next 7 months of baby talk makes me just want to run away and hide!

My mum thinks I need to see someone and I try to explain I dont I will get used to this in time whichever way I want to. Am I wrong?
gizmo1980 gizmo1980
1 Response Aug 4, 2011

I don't blame you for being upset. It will be tough and thankfully you have a husband to help you through it. And you're right, they don't fully understand and I doubt they ever will. Talking to someone who does understand or is in the same boat as you may help you ptu your pain in perspective.