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i think it is what kind of love would it be though?

 

there are many types of love.

i hope some people love me .

with the love that does not judge the love that is always there the love that is supportive and forgiving. the love that does not let us down. love that keeps us bonded and close whatever our actions. love of a friend who cares , love of a friend who just needs a hug. the love that says i understand and i will be there anyway.

i have that love in me.

do you?

redgone redgone 31-35, M 35 Responses Aug 11, 2008

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thank you all who have commented on this.... and the discussion which has followed...<br />
of all the things i have written in here this was not one i thought would get comments or provoke thoughts...

Very thought-provoking discussion this - thanks again everyone. I too believe relationships happen for reasons.

Agreed. I believe we move through life and all our experiences heading towards a greater purpose. We only have to possess the foresight to recognize when that purpose is within our grasp.

i like that answer in a quantum phyics way it makes sense, ..<br />
..definitly more than a cup half full consideration.

Definately possible to love someone you have never met. I beleive we are all connected in some way, not like the 6 degrees of seperation thing, but by some other energy, and I think people meet each other for a reason, perhaps it is the energy they give off, the lessons they have to learn. So the people you meet are already in your life in some way, you may not know it until some future time.

More very interesting comments here. I think I tend tostick to a narrower range of discussion, so perhaps I've not noticed stuff on EP. It's a pity to hear that people would toy with the emotions of others though. I find that quite cruel. Why would people do that? Have they had it done to themselves?! I don't know...<br />
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I agree that it's easy to say things. Sometimes people might just be "patting on the back" as a friendly reassurance here, and not be willing to do more than that; maybe that's why they might back-off if you approach them more closely? I personally prefer to take things very slowly in relationships off-line or on. I think it's better that way.<br />
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With regard to being true to yourself: I agree completely. What's the point of fake relationships that show themselves as fake, maybe at the worst of times? Trust me, if you're standing alone for a while, but being yourself, soon you'll be standing not quite alone, but only with people who want to really be there. I guess that's no excuse for any of us to be obnoxious and anti-social, but I don't see the point of blending-in just for the sake of things either. Maybe purely statistically we can imagine there are enough people out there for some to be like us?!

I think if you are going to use the word "love" it has to be made clear that it is the kind of love that is between friends only, Too many people take "I love you" very seriously and think it is an invitation for something more. I reserve those words for the very special people in my life, I have friends I care dearly for and on occasion will tell them I love them, but it is not a word I just end every letter or conversation with.

Yes it is!!I love you and the way you wrote your story!!

Promises are easy to make starry and easier to break. Actions are what matters. If you truly love someone you do not give up no matter how rocky the road. If they feel the same it will work out. If they don't, it never really was. You can't force love from another.<br />
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There are lots of pla<x>yers here justme. Everyone needs to be careful.

I hope you've not had bad experiences, stickupforme, with people sweet-talking but then disappearing off to chase someone else if it looks like you might be serious enough to commit? I guess dishonesty can exist in any relationship. Maybe with something like EP where anonymity is encouraged, and people generally tend to be so distant geographically, people will be less inclined to be "pla<x>yers"? At least I hope so for the sake of those with possible romantic interests online.

I agree basspla, but what if it is true love between two people and then one of them give up...after all the promises ....what would you consider that ? what if the person who is still in this relationship believes that this person will retun back .......???

If it's one sided then again I say it's not love. True love comes from two people not one. True love is patient. True love conquers all. I will always believe that.

If you don't risk the possibility and fully put yourself out there then you will never know. I believe the possibility of happiness outweighs the risks. The only thing that really weeds out the pla<x>yers is time. They will get tired eventually and move on.

I do. And it's possible to love someone you've never met. I love... I've never met him, but our love is even more stronger because we must wait and withstand it untill we will meet.<br />
Those who didn't experience long distance relationship almost never understand...

I can tell you that it happend and in the real world ... I met virtually online someone who is far from where I live i.e from another country , I have indeed fell in love with him so much that I cant imagine my life without him being in it . Well, eventaully met face to face , and the love was more and strong . Unfortunatley he was married and was confused of what to do .....the wife got to know that and at the end he found that it is best to seperate ........ it is now 6 months since then ...he is still in my heart , cant really forget him even for a miunte ...he is a soul mate indeed .... He used to say that what existed between us will never be forgotten ..... Here I'm hoping and praying .... I dont know but I cant forget him ...even I can see him in my dreams .... I can feel his spirit around me...... It is strange really ......I can feel strongly that he still cares for the fact that he is visiting my profile on a business website and I can track thjose who hit my profile ...He is always there.......

I totally agree it is possible to love someone you have never mety face to face. there are many different kinds of love in the world.

People like that are not in touch with their own feelings. Infatuation can be projected upon another. Love cannot. If it is something that is generated from within then it is not love. The other person in your life holds your love in their hands. They make it flower and grow.....or wilt and die.

The internet allows us to meet people without actually "meeting" them. Relationships and sympathies develop. Yes feelings of love can grow without knowing very much or meeting the other person. Love is mind generated. We love because we want to love. The ob<x>ject of our love often doesnt do anything to merit this love. We project whatever we want and if we are lucky the recipient is "deserving" and doesnt let us down. Most times they do! <br />
The perfect examples are of people that are in love with celebrities, even though a lot are wackos, there are some out there that have genuine feelings of love for celebrities ( no not talking about what most women and some men would like to do with George Clooney...that is not love :) Or think about people who "love" abusive partners. Is that not all in the mind?

The internet allows us to meet people without actually "meeting" them. Relationships and sympathies develop. Yes feelings of love can grow without knowing very much or meeting the other person. Love is mind generated. We love because we want to love. The ob<x>ject of our love often doesnt do anything to merit this love. We project whatever we want and if we are lucky the recipient is "deserving" and doesnt let us down. Most times they do! <br />
The perfect examples are of people that are in love with celebrities, even though a lot are wackos, there are some out there that have genuine feelings of love for celebrities ( no not talking about what most women and some men would like to do with George Clooney...that is not love :) Or think about people who "love" abusive partners. Is that not all in the mind?

Any relationship based on honesty and respect can grow to be love. It doesn't need to be face to face.

I have met many people online that i would say I love. I think its less scary to open up to someone online and really allow them to get to know you as well as getting to know them. Love is a very powerful thing...if only this world had more love in it

Lots of interesting comments here - thanks for the initial story redgone. I agree that there are different types of love and that it's definitely possible to have very strong connections on EP for some of the reasons mentioned.

Unconditional love, it's hard to come by these days.

Yes I think it is possible to love like that.

wow.. that touched me.. :D

I also asked the same question long time ago! i guess its possible to love someone that u havent met.. As long as u have the love and respect for yourself I see why not u cannot love other person!

I have loved someone without meeting them, many years back. <br />
It all went horribly wrong - we were both with other people...lots of hurt all round, you can probably imagine.<br />
But still I think of her and smile at what we had, it was a good friendship which I wanted to go too far.

I personally think that it would be VERY easy to love someone here. If you utilize this place to it's fullest potential, you will say goodbye to your inhibitions and people will get to see the "real" you. The people that are in your circle, and I am talking about the ones that you talk to everyday, will get to know you very well. It would be more of a love of your mind and thoughts than a lust for your looks and body.

Red, that is very touching and thought provoking. There are many ways of meeting people, just as there are many ways to love.

It's so funny how some ppl don't get this concept red. For many, it's an ALL OR NOTHING situation. I love EVERYONE... even those I want to hate. Now where that love crosses the line and becomes IN LOVE, is a slippery slope for me. I have to be careful to guard not only my heart, but that of the people I proclaim to love. One never knows if they are of that ALL OR NOTHING fr<x>ame of mind.