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Wooden Spoon...

As long as you dont go industrial strength they are perfect across, they are strong enough to tell the kids whats what and weak enough they'll break before anything bad happens.

I had some broken over me and i think i'm a better person because of it.

yedmeipa yedmeipa 22-25 20 Responses Mar 3, 2009

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consequences, are always presented...yes, fear, crossing the road, when the cars are coming..fear, for the safety, of everyones, future, but, I still find, that FEAR, is not a rational, approach, when dealing with a young mind,,or body, as in to FEAR, ones parents, for the,,fear, of their retributions, to their,rules., being broken..<br />
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Yes, fear is a mechanism,that has kept mankind alive....But to endure it, when it is dished out, by those who should be teaching love, at those tender years, is not the best approach, to be taken....<br />
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but, thank you, for answering my response, and allowing you, to see, me.<br />

oh no did i use a scary word that offends you?<br />
life with to much fear is never a good thing, life without fear is even worse. Fear of repercussions of your decisions and choices are what make our entire world actually work. Without this fear everyone would just do whatever they wanted whenever they wanted, laws would be meaningless as they wouldn't deter anything.<br />
if you come home each night and decide that them yelling is grounds for giving them a black eye your a spiteful, hateful person who doesn't deserve children.<br />
if your kid decides that the sound a window makes when you throw a rock through it is kinda cool and just goes nuts, but there just expressing themselves so its alright, you don't deserve to reproduce.<br />
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Life should be in the middle ground, you should first talk to children, unfortunately they can't always understand how the adult world works. Sometimes you need to remind them in a way that is simple and easy for them to understand.<br />
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You claim its so wrong that i should fear my parents because i got spanked a few times. a measure of fear goes hand in hand with all the other emotions i felt for them, including respect and love. I am a success story of all this that disproves your knee jerk reactions. like everything else you need to find the middle ground in life.

FEAR, <br />
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Fear, what is this..Fear ****? Why should children be hit, with anything, so that they..FEAR, what they should be,,respectful of..and, love...<br />
after being hit, with the..perfect...spoon, you condone, this behaviour?<br />
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Where does..goodness come into play, when fear, is the weapon, used to control, young minds?<br />
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Wow.<br />

i suppose depending on who you are it seems like a lot thinner line that people like us think it is.

I basically agree with you. I was spanked with a wooden spoon and wooden rod and was not harmed at all. Some kids though, it seems to affect differently. I don't know what's to explain the difference.

My dad hardly ever spanked me as a child, my mom on the other hand was abused, my grandmother also was abused and my mom would fly off the handle and hit us will all kinds of things, she wasn't the nicest person in the world but I dealt with it. I'm not saying it's ok to beat your children but a little discipline goes a long way. I respected my father more because he hardly ever had to spank us, and we knew he meant business. When I have children of my own I'm not sure if I will spank them or not that is something my husband and I will have to discuss together. We both came from families with one controlling parent with a short fuse so we know what its like to have time bombs for parents. If you are a person who can not control your anger you shouldn't spank your children. But if you do spank your kids very very rarely in extreme cases I don't see a problem with it.

dubiousone you've voiced your point of view enough times here, i would appreciate it if you stop heckling my commenters.

Spanking children is a god given right and we wouldn't have as many social problems with today's teens if someone whipped them instead of handing them Ritalin.

you would ground you wife?<br />
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wait don't answer that

darnit typo bunnies :-D<br />
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i meant Arnt...

i say wooden spoon because they will deal less damage than your hand is capable of.<br />
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if you are going to do it, in the heat of anger is probably a mistake. you are trying to reprimand, not injure.

I'm not against spanking, after all there are circumstances that i think demand more than a sharp reprimand. <br><br />
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However i dont think that anybody should use a wooden spoon, or anything... if you use your hand you can feel the sting just like they do..<br><br />
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And i def. believe it should only be done when you aren't in the heat of anger.

I wasn't trying to sway your opinion, you're very much entitled to your own and if you say this experience made you a better person, I'm not going to argue it. <br />
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We're all very different, I thought we were just sharing.

I believe it acceptable because it worked on me, but i clearly appear to be in the minority.<br />
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regardless i don't think any of us will be changing our opinions so i think we should end our conversation.

On the contrary, I never learned to respect my parents at that age because I saw them as bullies. Anything I did learn from it was, as I saw it, in spite of them. It certainly didn't make me better behaved either...but then I was a trouble maker. <br />
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The things I learned from being hit were not considered by any of them, and to say it didn't work implies they put any thought into it. Which I doubt.

I doubt we will ever agree on this subject so i'm just going to stop talking about it with you soon, however that is not now.<br><br />
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I'm not going to argue somantics with you, hitting, yelling and punishment is abusive by definition, however being abusive does not make them child abuse. also i rank children and dogs at about the same level (only my dog is much better behaved than most children).<br><br />
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secondly you seem to be saying things in America were entirely without organized human-human violence... right...<br><br />
then you say that you only have weapons so europians wont invade... so your using the threat of violence to protect your way of life?<br><br />
then i think you are saying that if America, NATO and all its allies disarmed you would not be invaded... right... (if thats not what your saying see above point)<br><br />
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and i agree there are more ways to deal with children than screaming of spanking them. Just because there are more ways doesn't mean those ways are better.<br><br />
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the final point i will make:<br><br />
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did you have wooden spoons broken on you as a child in the manner i speak of?<br />
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overture, so you think that although on the heavy side it worked?

Besides making me flinch every time my grandmother or mother walked behind, if anything the only effect it had on me was serving as a reminder to not let my temper get the best of me.

thats part of the psychological aspect, even with the wooden spoon it could be child abuse (like beating them somewhere other than th tookus).<br />
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what effect do you think it had on you?

I've gotten the wooden spoon before. I found that with my family it was more a matter of losing their temper than believing the punishment was a suitable way to discipline children.

you think i fear my parents?<br />
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you think i would advocate this if it hadn't happened to me?<br />
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I mean at the end of the day shouldn't people have a touch of fear for bigger people. there is such a thing as to much self esteem, which leads to selfishness and skewed moral perspectives.<br />
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this is a leap of faith here, but i can only assume you are from a country that can live peacefully because of its military and military alliances. so ironicaly you can only hold this view because your society instills fear in other people.<br />
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at the end of the day i dont promote abusing children, hence why i make a point of the spoon breaking. sometimes people just need to be set strait and yelling is not a strong enough consequence to achieve that.