Depends On The Kid

Spanking worked for me, but it doesn't work for every kid. I believe in spanking, but am not going to tell someone that they have to spank their kid to raise the kid right. It all depends on what works. Spankings work for some kids, and they don't work on others.

Angel34 Angel34
31-35, F
15 Responses Feb 20, 2010

I totally agree with you.<br />
Like I have said in the pass. the spanking never did any harm except the seat of my pants,LOL.<br />
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If it was use more often on brats these kids or Teens got there bottoms warmed a few times they behave better.<br />
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Even though my parents divorced they still was very loving and firm. It did not matter my dad would still spank if he heard we was causing trouble to mom or others if he knew we was spanked, when we go see him he lecture and tell us that the next time we will come over and dish out another spanking. I don't know why but I was good while in my dad's present. I have been spanked by him, boy dose it hurt. I think maybe he made his point better. but my mom was just as firm but I grew up as defiant and stubborn and mom just having to keep spanking.<br />
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I have a story on exp. about my daddy giving me a real bad spanking but later he found out he was wrong and ever since that last spanking he never spanked me again. <br />
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My dad felt so bad because he thought something happened to me and that I did tell where we was going. my dad let his anger take over, he grabbed me took me on the front porch and bared my bottom and he really gave it to me good at least a good couple of minutes I was getting spanked, I screamed and bawled I was so confused as to why I was being spanked. I did not know why until after when my friend told my dad it was not Therese fault she told where she be. <br />
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My dad came to get me out if the car and just hugged me telling me he was sorry. It took me a while to for give him. he spanked in anger and he knew it. After that day he did try to make it better. It was on my 9th birthday.

TJ yes, wouldn't it be super if more parents showed their love by disciplining their kids. Spanking should be 1 of the disp. methods.

I was blessed I had parents who never use anger. My Sib's and I was spanked,with hand or Paddled,Slippered or Belt depending how servere.<br />
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Luckly I rarely got the belt. but my brother did. I remember one time my brother was argueing with my mom and she had enough of his attitude and mom told him to bend over and drop his pants. he was about 11yrs. I was about 6yrs. he bend over on the chair and I saw mom spanked him with the belt. but he laughed. my brother did not see my dad come in and my dad took the belt from my mom and unfolded the belt and my dad came down hard on his bottom my brother went from laughing to crying. my dad gave him about 12 swatt with the strap. My brother was bawling and had to do corner time. <br />
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I remember my dad telling my brother he will not stand for any of us kids to be rude to mom it will only means my dad will spank. with the belt. my brother and older sister both got a couple of times for argueing with my mom.<br />
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my oldest sister was spanked with my dads hands. My dads hands hurt. he is very solid and firm with each strike. My dad has only spanked me about 6X's. I knew better .I did not want to be over his knee's at all cost. he give 25 swats. But if it is real bad we get 50. My dad did the counting.

That's right TJ and the best for the disciplinarian to first calm down if there was a personal conflict.

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I think it is the worse is waiting. I would ge in my room for 15 to 30min. depended on the nature and how mad my mom was.<br />
At lease she knew she had to calm down before she came to dish out in giving an old fashion spanking.

TJ50, I agree, specially on that waiting game comment!

I was spanked and my daughter was spanked. My whole family grew up in getting our bottoms warmed. it has worked for us, I agree with 2doerver. I would rather have a spanking for the crime. than be put in jail for a spell. <br />
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Our jails are so over crowded if there was some form of punishment while growing up there be better behaved kids today. it is sad parents have no control in giving an old fashion spanking.<br />
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I do believe in spanking. but I don't believe in beating. Spanking should be done only in a calm state. My mom always made us kids go to our room and wait till she decided it was time. I think the waiting game is the worse punishment just knowing I won't be sitting long. :O(

Absolutely correct Ravenmagic.<br />
Refer to my comment dated August 21.<br />
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Dear commentators, it looks to me like Dizzyhusband's comments are removed?

Wow. A lot of comments here but I wanted to give some input from a parent who learned as I went what worked for each of my children was as different from night to day. My oldest son I believe enjoyed any spankings he received & tried to get them when he was very little, therefore I quickly corrected the way I disciplined him from CP to a reward system. My daughter is completely different in that I only need to give her the "look" & she crumbles. I have found that spankings do not work for my children but that's only my household. And I too agree that its a personal decision. You have to know your child as an individual & lovingly find what helps direct & guide them best.

Dizzy, I see you are more dizzy than you thought!<br />
1. You started an argument on another members story.<br />
2. The name you call us, I find offensive and rude!<br />
3. The only block that you were around was the 1 that you could kick back under your bed after you have ran around it. You obviously knows very little of what's happening in the world!<br />
4. I am giving the facts, not lies, what actually happened, but you cannot understand that, cause your sight is to narrow, or maybe you are still to dizzy.<br />
5. Before you answer, learn some more civilized words!

Dizzy,<br />
You are entitled to that viewpoint. For me it is not a viewpoint, but an experience. I cannot speak for the other commentators here, but I had spankings at home and school. I deserved all of them!<br />
I was also a teacher and we also incorporated CP as ONE of our correction methods. Anyway, we, including me only got positive feedback from the parents AND the children them-self. They came and thanked us for it and told us what the consequences would have been without it. = Police, criminal record, jail, family lives ruined etc.. I rest my case.

It is very imported to know your children, otherwise it would be impossible to decide if spanking will do the job or not, or do I have to use something else, or maybe more than 1 method, depending on the transgression.<br />
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Tanya, I agree with you! If more than 1 child disobeyed they need exactly the same punishment. Gender and age doesn't matter. One cannot decide it a spanking works, if you didn't tested it first!

Angel,<br />
I agree 100% with you.<br />
It's a personal matter, but it is always 'horses for courses'!<br />
CP has a place, but was abused by many people who had sadistic tendencies, or those who could not control their anger.<br />
There are definitely some cases where spanking is the only option!<br />
I would rather receive 6 or 7 cuts across my backside in the place of a jail sentence and a criminal record!! <br />
Then you have the children with respect problems. This are now those with all the New Age and Humanistic tendencies - they are asking for a spanking.

People used to think it was necessary to "spank" adult members of the community, military trainees, and prisoners. In some countries they still do. In our country, it is considered sexual battery if a person over the age of 18 is "spanked", but only if over the age of 18.<br />
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For one thing, because the buttocks are so close to the sex organs and so multiply linked to sexual nerve centers, striking them can trigger powerful and involuntary sexual stimulus in some people. There are numerous physiological ways in which it can be sexually abusive, but I won't list them all here. One can use the resources I've posted if they want to learn more. All materials listed may be accessed at the website of Parents and Teachers Against Violence In Education at www.nospank.net.<br />
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Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:<br />
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Child buttock-battering (euphemistically labeled "spanking","swatting","switching","smacking", "paddling",or other cute-sounding names) for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.<br />
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Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.<br />
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I think the reason why television shows like "Supernanny" and "Dr. Phil" are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do.<br />
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There are several reasons why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:<br />
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Plain Talk About Spanking<br />
by Jordan Riak,<br />
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The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children<br />
by Tom Johnson,<br />
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NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say<br />
by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.<br />
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Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional or intentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit the website of Parents and Teachers Against Violence In Education at www.nospank.net.<br />
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Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea:<br />
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American Academy of Pediatrics,<br />
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry,<br />
American Psychological Association,<br />
Center For Effective Discipline,<br />
Churches' Network For Non-Violence,<br />
Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu,<br />
Parenting In Jesus' Footsteps,<br />
Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children,<br />
United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.<br />
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In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

This is exactly my sentiment