I Wonder If People Really Understand What They Are Seeing...No matter whether I am in the USA or the Philippines I get odd looks when I walk down the street, or through a mall.
Being around 6 foot tall, bald, and looking like you are ready to tear down a brick wall seems to make people uncomfortable. The funny thing is even though I shave my head, have big muscles, and look a little intimidating, I'm really a big softy at heart.
I love people. I love playing with kids, and kids love me.
Dogs love me and cats always want to jump in my lap.
I make friends easily, and once they are my friends we stay friends for a long time.
It makes it very funny to watch people look away as I move towards them in stores and malls. They appear to feel uncomfortable with my appearance and my boldness. Yes, I have no fear of walking up to anyone and introducing myself. If you look interesting and I want to know you, I will approach you.
I have one lady friend in Kansas City who has repeatedly told me she thought I was preparing to either mug her or rape her when I approached. She thought I looked "scary". Then when I stopped a few feet away and offered to carry the box she was struggling with she looked a second time. This time she saw the sparkle in my eyes, the smile on my face, and the relaxed self-confidence.
After carrying the box to her car she gave me her business card and asked me to call her if I was near her office around lunch time on any day. I was the next day...of course it was not an accident, I just wanted to know her better. While we have never dated, she has set me up on 3 different "blind" dates. She never tells them what I look like because she wants them to get that same feeling in the pit of their stomach the first time.
The Philippines has not been much different. They are sometimes a bit frightened by my appearance, but just a commonly by the fact I am a foreigner and they might need to speak English too much. They get over the fear pretty quickly once they see past the appearance and realize I'm just a nice guy who wants to be friends.
What they see after they know me is much different than what they see on first glance....
Now, if you try to hurt one of my friends, then that appearance you saw on first glance is completely real. I will stop you, dead in your tracks.
JosephBlane 36-40, M 3 Responses 0 Nov 26, 2010