The Answer Is Simple, In Most Cases

But I am a whale! I have not attracted any she-whales or pancton... Oh the little kritters, love how they filter through my balene..

I guess that a single picture can't tell an entire life's story either. I don't need to see the right picture in front of me to communicate to someone on EP. Give an intelligent chat any time, or an exchange of messages that gives me than it asks. Val :-)

Personally..I don't care what they use as an avatar..and I only use myself..and initially I get a lot of the same responses..I just want them to read my stories and opinions to find out about me..just like I do them...but a lot of the time they just skip past that..makes me wonder if they really want to know the whole me or just use the avatar to define me...TW

I think this post is deliberately aimed at me. Okay, so I don't have the best dress sense. And okay, I pretend to own a tuxedo. But give me a break.

I want to be the George Clooney of waterborne mammals. Don't shatter my dream.

My experience is the prettier girls get more attention. I think that in some cases that then influences their character. They come to expect that reaction from everyone and when they don't receive it they can be a little waspish. Rather than generalise: i witnessed a situation where a very attractive girl worked in my organisation. When managed by male colleagues she was praised and I suppose there was a little flirting and so on. She worked very well, was effervescent and good with clients. Later working for a female manager, who was either indifferent to her looks or slightly jealous things changed. She was subjected to more criticism, and with hindsight it was deserved but delivered badly, she became less outgoing, her work suffered. This is one instance and proves nothing but it struck me how much appearances can affect things.



since i stopped my modelling career things have got real tough. (that is technically classified as humour).

HS, post your bikini shots and we'll submit our initial reactions. :)



Sappy, I think you're absolutely right about the personality development. If you have a weak character and are attractive, you just won't work at being an interesting, well-informed, and generally pleasant person to be around. Those people have a VERY hard time with even young middle age.



Age is the great equalizer.



The man I'm dating...I thought he was a nice enough looking man when we first went out, but now that I know how funny, kind, sweet, passionate and loving he is, he is absolutely stunningly drop dead gorgeous to me.



That is also the way of the world, for most people; also a truth, but a kinder one.

You are beautiful, Sappy.

You can make up all the scientific studies you want :)

I like my purple rose and I think I'll be keeping it awhile. I don't have any freaky friend requests and I find most people are quite nice here.



20/20 (I think) did a segment with slim attractive women vs the overweight, plain women and video taped how they were treated in common public situations. The attractive always came out ahead. The same was true on job interviews. Presented with equal abilities, it was the attractive woman who was hired.



Sad fact of life. However the plain, overweight women tend to develop fantastic personalities to compensate. Oh, sorry that last statement was just my opinion. I have no scientific studies to back it up. Just myself. : )

Weirdos never seem all that interested in Paul Klee.

They don't seem to like my insect avatars either.

Good post, Chick

Thank you, KL.



I have to agree with ladylove, I think attacks are either random - some people will just be nasty to everyone - or prompted by the content of your posts/stories.



However, you're still likely to be noticed more if you have an avatar that stands out in some way.

HS: Don't knock the bikini until you try it first...LOL :P

DC...



I am a little scary in a bikini myself...

Kinda creepy too, now that I think about it...

:)P

Nicely summarized, DC. People seem to get attacked for using pictures of themselves and also for using pictures of others. Can't win, really.

Thank you, Fungirl. I pretty much get a constant barrage of nasty "friend" invites but I've just stopped looking at the profiles. I figure if it's someone who actually wants friendship they'll at least drop me a short note to say hi.

Well you are a very pretty woman DC and a very compassionate one. I used to have pix of myself on here before I was attacked. I waited a long time before posting any new pix of me and sure enough as soon as I did I ended up with another one. I agree with your post btw and it is sad that we can't show our pix to everyone without it causing a lot of attention.

I didn't say it was an easy ride. I'm talking about first impressions only. And to tell you the truth, just for honesty's sake, most people consider me an attractive person. I can look very good indeed, and I can also look very bad indeed, and people -strangers, that is - treat me better when I look nice than when I look less nice.

Hi Discoverychick

everyone has problems. Attractive people get attention they do not want or cannot handle and also jealousy. everything has an upside too but being attractive is just one of a huge number of dimensions to a person. It is not the easy ride you say is all I am saying.

:)

Well, with first impressions anyway. I am certainly not saying I think it's a good thing, but we are hardwired to respond to the pretty - initially.

I hate to agree with you but I know it's true. Those last two line say it all. The prettier people do have an advantage in life.

Hi

It's me Amitvikram Dubey.

Read your thoughts about this topic and definitely my more than 99 percent doubt are now cleared.

Thanks for your view



Amit(ChD)