If You Don't Like Something Change It; If You Can't Change It, Change The Way You Think About It.
I got married to my husband because I fell in love with him… My mom always said that love is not enough to make a marriage work, you need to find someone whose faults you can live with… I used to tell anyone who would listen what my mom always said to me and I believed it with all my heart. Until I found out some of my husband’s faults that he had kept hidden from me. Now I think that my mom was wrong…. You shouldn’t marry the person you can live with… you should marry the person you can’t live without……
More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse. I do not regret getting married to my husband, however, I do regret things I have done during our marriage. To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all. Albert Einstein once said, “Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed.”
Anything that a person is forced to change about himself or herself; will eventually revert to the way it was before the change was coerced. When change is unwillingly imposed on a person, it causes resentment. While at the same time, refusal to adhere to reasonable modifications can produce just as much resentment.
I have no idea why society makes it more difficult to acquire a license to drive a car than they do to obtain a license to get married. Being in a marriage is far more dangerous than operating a vehicle. I strongly believe that couples should be required to pass a test to prove that they are in agreement with each other concerning essential, conjugal fundamentals. We impose age restrictions on individuals because the consumption of alcohol requires mature decision making abilities, yet the only maturity level required to get married is independence from custodial guidance, regardless of whether the independence is deserved.
Remember that a successful marriage depends on two things… finding the right person and most importantly, being the right person.