I Worry About Drawing Attention, Getting Looks, When I Walk
To Me It's Nice To Be Ignored/unnoticed Whenever It's Common; I Don't Want To Be Disturbing
By:
MDenise
Written on March 22nd, 2012
For me, it's about a desired "talent" of not getting a glance from someone when they could look (being unnoticed, or ignored in a way I like), and potentially being considered disruptive with my movements if I get glances too often. There are times that someone pays no mind to other people walking or moving otherwise.
I have this concern with reaching with my hand or otherwise moving my arm or making other movements, as well as walking. My reaching hand gets looked at, turns heads.
I have had times of making everyone, in some cases one at a time as I approached each, turn to me as I walked around; and times of walking with and behind other people, and someone else standing or sitting around would not look at them but when it's my turn the person would turn to me. I hate those situations so much. They're frustrating. I would feel like I cannot, as other people do, move around in someone's field of vision without making him/her look.
I know this is a minor issue that I should not worry so much about.
My cats -- they can be lying down with their head down and their eyes open, and in this state they often ignore other people walking around, but I seem to always make them turn or lift their head, based on my sometimes looking at them and catching them doing it, and I hate it.
I generally fear approaching people.
I realized I hate only catching someone turn or lift his/her head to glance; I have narrowed it down to that. I don't mind so much, seeing someone move only the eyes or seeing someone already looking, head turned or raised. It's strange, I know.
Of course it's normal for people to see people walking, so I know I shouldn't worry about this. I realized only in recent years that it is common for other walking people to get looked at by about everyone or at least many (I notice it at church when people walk in late, and my minister mentioned about the people walking in late getting looked at by everyone as they walk to their seats). This makes me feel so much better. I notice a lot of specific people having a tendency to turn to every individual they see walking. This also helps me. I wouldn't mind making someone look if they are one of this type.
I have this concern with reaching with my hand or otherwise moving my arm or making other movements, as well as walking. My reaching hand gets looked at, turns heads.
I have had times of making everyone, in some cases one at a time as I approached each, turn to me as I walked around; and times of walking with and behind other people, and someone else standing or sitting around would not look at them but when it's my turn the person would turn to me. I hate those situations so much. They're frustrating. I would feel like I cannot, as other people do, move around in someone's field of vision without making him/her look.
I know this is a minor issue that I should not worry so much about.
My cats -- they can be lying down with their head down and their eyes open, and in this state they often ignore other people walking around, but I seem to always make them turn or lift their head, ba
I generally fear approaching people.
I realized I hate only catching someone turn or lift his/her head to glance; I have narrowed it down to that. I don't mind so much, seeing someone move only the eyes or seeing someone already looking, head turned or raised. It's strange, I know.
Of course it's normal for people to see people walking, so I know I shouldn't worry about this. I realized only in recent years that it is common for other walking people to get looked at by about everyone or at least many (I notice it at church when people walk in late, and my minister mentioned about the people walking in late getting looked at by everyone as they walk to their seats). This makes me feel so much better. I notice a lot of specific people having a tendency to turn to every individual they see walking. This also helps me. I wouldn't mind making someone look if they are one of this type.
By:
MDenise
Age:
31-35
,
Female
