I am making myself write this quote a bunch of times tonight so I remember it. I forgot this yesterday, so I want to remember.

"If we understood the awesome power of our words. We would prefer silence to almost anything negative" EBT pg58

This site asks a question - I think the answer is because there were to many negative words period.

Sunny told me that this should be a supportive place. So why should we be here I think I found answer for that too:

"We are here to help each other, to care for each other, to understand, forgive, and serve one another." EBT pg51

I hope those i call my friends can at least try to understand and forgive each other. Now seems to be the time for that ......


SantanaRex SantanaRex
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13 Responses Feb 15, 2009

I have to come back and read this when I have more time. It is very intriguing and I am a very positive thinker.

well i was thinking of putting this here but when i realized i posted my 10 word story in the 7 word story group I now need a place to store this so i post it in the 10 word story wonder if i can get it to 7 that usually hurts my head more LOL<br />
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Friends<br />
My problems are nothing knowing the pain of my friends.<br />
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My joy grows as the joy of my friends grows

modified my comment - I meant no offense to you. I hope Sunny will reach out to you probably best for that conversation to be a private matter I hope you two can work it out.

I ask you to delete your last comment, too. Since I would much rather my words not be edited or censored.

Thanks floyd very nice i will be including stealing some comments here shortly<br />
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As has been pointed out to me while the first half of the story was a personal attack the second part was about someone potentially contemplating suicide. I believe that suicide is not anything to be taken lightly, but that part has been lost in all this and it is one of the things I am most upset about. When I found out more information about that side of the story I was devastated.

i am trying Sunny - you were the one that pointed out that we should support each other. That is really why we are here - or at least it should be. <br />
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I know you will not be staying long. But you should know you have my love and support. i think your very special. <br />
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I think there were alot of mistakes made by folks trying to help. <br />
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Maybe before you go you might consider meeting CK half way - now that some time has passed and the emotions have cooled down it may be easier. It may not make it all better but a step might help two folks who I know were friends move a little closer, and ease some of the pain and hurt from the last couple days. At least CK is here and did take a step .... as well. <br />
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Whatever your decision know that I will be your friend and sometimes friends need to let each other know if they think a mistake was made and I think you did make a mistake. i think alot of people made mistakes. <br />
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For now i am just glad your here. i may be going to bed soon but I wanted to make sure the comments here where what i would consider constructive when you saw them. <br />
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As a general comment i will add I posted a blog basically a couple pages from my Guide Book that I think are particularly relevant after this weekend. I hope some folks will check it out.

thank you FG. The same goes for me. i am not trying to start an argument I want to start a constructive dialogue. So please let me know if i am out of line in a PM. <br />
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Heck blogthings told me I was alot less perfect than most people. So i am not saying i have all the answers but I am pretty good with questions.

Agreed, I don't think any one person is to blame. I think it just gets out of hand and we need to remember this site is a support site and not an "attack site." If we want that we can find that anywhere. I just want us to watch out for one another and by all means if I get out of line please send me a PM and say hey Jaycee what you said was hurtful. If I hurt someone I am willing to apologize.

CK That makes it more personal - less general so your expressing your feelings is fine. The first comment was a general statement that I can say I don't agree with. <BR><BR>this place will be as supportive as we make it. I read the story it was a personal insult to someone on EP that was obvious to me. So complaining about personal insults well i agree they are wrong but when you lay down with dogs you may wake up with fleas. So for me the saying turn the other cheek comes to mind. My impression way to many people focused on the comments and ignored the story. The story set the tone.<BR><BR>FG has been here alot longer than me and I feel her question is appropriate would u treat someone with you that way? Would three or four or five people surround one or two people and get into a shouting match. i hope not. <BR><BR>Why do i care - because i do. Your my friends and i don't like to see friends fight. because several people that are important to me have been hurt and that upsets me. What happened was wrong and i don't think any one person is completely responsible.<br />
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I agree with FG 100%

Well I love you CK and I will never attack you. I love Sunny too and I don't mind people knowing it. Sunny is very good to me both on and off EP. I just wish that we could all get along better and not attack anyone at all.

Santana, I think that we have attacked one another on the site and that we all need to step back and think about actions. There have been A LOT of good people attacked in recent weeks, some chose to make this public where as some swept it under the rug and tried to move forward, still others weren't given the option of keeping it private because persons made it personal. I have said it before and I will say it again. Would you treat the person you are talking to in the same manner if you knew that person was sitting in the next room from you? I posted a story on here a long time ago that talked about this exact scenario. <br />
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CK, In some instances I don't think it is intentional as much as feeling the need to protect themselves and to present a strong front. Not saying this was the case here bc I didn't see things happening. ;-(

This place is what WE make it. I am tired of the negative words. I aint putting up with no negativity.<BR><BR>My request is for you to try and forgive and understand. Please look at the story I want my friends to at least try to understand and forgive each other.<BR><BR>So You can choose to work to end something or you can choose to prolong it (not gonna happen here though I will just delete any negative comments) or you can choose to ignore it I am fine with that. <BR><BR>Now that folks know the rules for this story ....