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Life is toooo short to live in misery. I sure hope you can find happiness soon! You might need to either kick that hubby in the balls or kick him out. You have enjoy life!!!

You seem like a great lady thats' just going through alot of **** right now, i am sure your doing the best you can. I'd love to get to know you, i found you responding to a civil war story, which ones have you been to Lonely Home i am in Carlisle and have been to quite a few with Gettysburg being the best of course. Hang in there things will improve i am sure and have a nice weekend!

Sorry you're having a tough stretch. Having a 12 year old will test anyone. If I could offer any advice to your husband (although I'm not exactly in a position to do that!), it would be to try to avoid reacting to or from a place of negative emotion. Always to differentiate between the actor (beloved child) and action (unacceptable behavior). Always to make it clear that he and you are a mutually loving and united team. And to think about how he wants your daughter to remember him 20 years from now. Wouldn't it be cool if she said something like, "I remember how obnoxious I was. But you never lost it with me. You always focused on disapproval of what I did - not on me. I never, for an instant, questioned how much you loved me. Consequences were rational and anticipated, not emotional and out-of-the-blue. I hope I can be that way with my children."

Now, to hear me talking about this, you might think that I have it down! Believe me, I don't!! It's so hard, when the antagonist is a master at pushing emotional buttons. But it's worth a shot.

Smile and enjoy her, even when you do want to wring her neck!

Amy, thank you for sharing your situation with us. You can always come here and vent or to be free. Your heart is sweet and caring and you are doing a great job as a mother. Don't give up !!!

I want to get to you ....and I am here to listen and I can be someone you vent too.....or I can be the travel agent to plan your escape to the island lol.

i am asking....i hear you...

I think the are many other women who feel as you do. Parenting is hard work. So is marriage. Venting is good for the soul and can help keep you sane.
P.S. I thought I was the only one who dreamed of that island! Shhh! Or others will find out about it and it will get too damned crowded. Hang in there sister.

Life is short...you are so right. We just need to enjoy it ...enjoy our kids...before its gone. Its okay to rant. Sometimes getting things off ones chest is the best medicine. No one should go through things alone....or at least not feel like they are alone.

Kids are challenging, especially tweens and teens. But I think the pay off in the long run will be well worth it. At least, thats what I keep my focus on.

I like yuor being on an island thought....lets throw in a personal chef and someone to gives lots of massages, lol

I know your pain. I am in a similar situation, but reversed. I have a 13 year old daughter and everything becomes some type of drama. My wife is like your husband in how she reacts. Being a parent is certainly not easy and its a learn as you go thing. We make mistakes and we hopefully learn. It makes it very tough when the spouse doesnt seem to be in the same game and you feel alone. Personally, I try to escape by chatting online.....yes, sometimes playing online. Its a harmless way to escape for a little while. And its certainly needed at times. My wife doesnt take an interest in Me.....she is self centered and if it doesnt directly affect her..she doesnt care. I wonder how long I can last.....