Being Single Doesn't Have To Be That Bad

Being alone, whether through a break up or through other circumstances, can be a very painful experience. I know that.
But sometimes, it is not such a bad thing - in fact, it can be positively enlightening. Being single can sometimes seem to be an insurmountable hurdle, particularly hard to accept if you are single through no choice of your own. (Trust me, I've been through that myself.) Evenings that could have been spent with a partner suddenly seem long and dull and all your friends have families of their own and don't have the time to hang out with you. However, being single can actually be smart sometimes. It doesn't have to be depressing and, once you've got used to it, you may even find that you're enjoying yourself.
The most obvious advantage of being single is that you can completely be yourself. There is no-one around to tell you what you should be doing or wearing. You can look after yourself properly, ensuring that you eat well, sleep well and have pampering time; that's very important! Some people find themselves forced to compromise when they are in a relationship and, sometimes without realising, find that over the years, they are moving further and further away from the person that they naturally are. Being single gives you the time to rediscover yourself, re-focus your plans and achieve what it is that you really want. Only few people come out of a relationship and say, with hindsight, that it was perfect...but when I see all the seemingly happy couples...I just can't help but wish I had someone to hold me and be with me like a true lover would. On the other hand - that special other half that I want to find so badly, and I won't accept less - probably doesn't exist.
If people could just stop commenting on it. Like my stepdad who just can't stop sending me all kinds of dating advertisement through mail. I know he wants me to be happy and all that, but why can't I be happy on my own? Is there anything wrong with that?
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1 Response Feb 13, 2011

I completely understand! My patents and friends are always asking if I have a date coming up. I get it... They just want to seem interested in my life but I have a whole existence they are ignoring by focusing on me being single. I'm also studying for a difficult certification, working at a very challenging career, and take dance classes when I can. All of these are much more fulfilling and interesting to talk about!