Do I Have To Write This?I recently offended someone because I would not agree to a one night stand. I do not even know why I have to write this. But....
I am a man who loves women. A woman is not just a body. Sex is not just physical. I demnad, the spirit, heart, and mind of a woman before I am even interested in physical sex. And, I give better than I get. Sex is not about something in your ****. A vibrator can do that.
Sex is a 24/7 thing between the 2 correct people. Foreplay starts with glances across the dinner table, Maybe a touch of hands. Sharing thoughout the day with smiles touches, hugs, kisses and sharing other experiences to grow together. Eventually it leads to more wild or kinky (sometmes) direct foreplay. Foreplay is a pleasure to build up feelings. I have to know the other person to read their face and body and understand their needs at that time. It is through touches and words that I reach their mind and spirit and increase the total pleasure for them. I cannot do that with a stranger I just meet, Direct foreplay may (and hopefully does) include many *******. But it should also include a relaxing of the mind and heart, a givng of you to my attentions and to the pleasures I seek to give. This comes from knowing you and having a union of mind and spirit that can nourish all of you at the same time I feed from your feelings to give back even more. Then at last there will be a climax.
But it does not stop there. There are the softing touches caresses nibbles kisses, etc. The afterplay starts then. The afterplay may escalate to foreplay then. It may taper off and blend into foreplay over hours or days. It is the icing on the cake to say. It is the thing that keeps us filled and happy instead of leavijng us wiht an emptiness with the desiring of climax draing one. It is the fullfillment of the shared love. It might not be the love of alifetime, but it is a meeting of 2 people in something that enhances there life.
This CANNOT occur in a one night stand. Holistic sex involving the whole being is so wonderful I cannot even imagine a physical only psuedosexual coupling. Yes, I in many groups involving sexual play and interests. Perhaps I may one day find alike minded peson and share some of these with them. But never in a one night stand with someone who has not yet opened their mind and soul and excepted mine as well so that we can meet fully.
I do not want to sound rude, disrespectful, or negative in any way of your choices. I encourage people ot persue the best they can. Ws are all humans trying to get by this life withthe best we find. And if that is not good enough for me, that is my failing. But I am who I am and too old to change.