I Love You, I Love You Not.

I wish no one would go through what I went through. The fear of wondering if someone loves you one day then doesn't the next. I was told at least every month...I love you so much, I never loved you, I love you just as a friend, I love you, etc. Can you imagine how heartbreaking this is to hear it from someone you do truly love? Well, I know there are different types of like I love you as a friend, I love you as a lover, and the way I love my family. But I believe people use those words sometimes the wrong way. I feel that it can be a way of manipulating people into getting what they want. Make them fall in love with you with their personal gain. Whatever that may be. I am tired of people just throwing out the words"I love you" without giving them serious consideration and what consequences they hold.
HazelEyedGurl HazelEyedGurl 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 4, 2010

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Yes, HazelEyedGurl, I an imagine it -- I go through that too -- having my wife alternate between wanting me and not. It has become easier for me to deal with since I started looking at it differently. Instead of it reflecting on me, and my desirability (or lack thereof), I believe it is about her -- it is about her fear of closeness and her need to manipulate and control.

Consider that what he does says more about him than it does about you.

They say they love you yet give you no consideration at all . They're like the friend who drives by you in the pouring rain make eye contact and swear they did not see you . If people had to give up a limb when they toss those words around they would be more selective .