I Married The Wrong Guy....

I was fairly young when I got married. I was 24. And before that, I was a pretty reckless person. I was always falling for the wrong guy. Bad and dangerous as long as I felt chemistry for them.

Anyway, after many heartbreaks.... I met this guy. He was everything opposite of what I normally dated. He was dependable, loyal, successful, ambitious.... and I decided to give this nice guy a shot. After dating each other for a while, he asked me to move in with him.... and in my heart, I felt like it was the wrong thing to do.... so I said no. In that moment, I knew he wasn't "the one". I was set to end our relationship. But little did I know that I was already 6 weeks pregnant. I grew up in a broken home, growing up without a mom the first half of my life and my dad wasn't really around. I didn't want my child to be raised by a single parent and I figured, well.... he loved me so much so I should just try to make the most of this. It was the worst decision I have ever made. I was so miserable in my marriage. I felt empty and lonely. I felt no passion. No love. The day I decided to leave him, I called my mom and she was so angry with me and told me that I was being delusional in my belief that there is someone out there that I was meant to be with. She pretty much told me to settle. 

I just couldn't do it. So I left. What followed after was a bitter divorce. He wouldn't let me go. He used everything in his power to keep me within reach, including using our child as a leverage. He was the breadwinner so I had no money, no support. I struggled with 2 jobs and lots of court dates, custody battles..... I endured his harassment  his verbal abuse. Partly because I felt guilty for marrying him for the wrong reasons. I felt guilty for hurting him..

This was the price I paid for being with the wrong man. 
DefineWeird DefineWeird
36-40, F
3 Responses Dec 3, 2012

I was suppose to move Chicago when I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant by a guy I had only been dating for 3 months. We have been married for a year now and have a great little girl but and he has done nothing wrong.. I'm just not in love with him. :/

Wow that is some story, thanks for sharing. My situation was similar although I had no children and I loved my ex at first. Eventually she changed, things changed, but I stayed the same. I couldn't take all the things that added up and she is trying hard to hold on to me still and hurt me. Check my story out.

thank you for taking the time to read and comment. And I will definitely read yours.

from the guys perspective, it sounds like he did nothing wrong but just paid the price for a mistake on your part. doesnt excuse his behavior after. sorry about the whole situation. hope all is well now.

Hence the guilt I feel for the entire situation... I regret it, believe me because I feel like I've ruined three lives. And I don't hate my ex regardless of how he reacted in anger and pain.