I Have Learned This the Hard Way

Now don't get me wrong I am human and humans are social people and I want to be in a relationship as much as the next person, but I am not going to force the issue and end up with the wrong person.  I did that once and spent 18 years paying for it.  The next time I think I will set up the relationship so it's not so permanent, ie.  not get married.  It's easier but still painful to break up with someone, but at least you don't have to get a judge to sign your breakup papers.   I have found while I am alone I don't mind my own company and have found things to do to keep me busy and occupied.  

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46-50, M
3 Responses Feb 19, 2009

Lol "break up papers." Clever, but very true.

ive been with the same man -28 years!

Me too. It’s funny because I have had the same thoughts about the not getting re-married, just have relationships. Then I thought that if you go into it that way you are already in a relationship that you intend to end. Then I thought, forget it, just let the day take you where it might, don’t think so much, just be. In any event, I know no matter what, I will never get married again. I will never let anyone own me again.