I Want To Be Spanked. . .

For some reason I've always loved being spanked. I was spanked while growing up, mostly with the belt by my mom and dad. One of my mom's boyfriends even spanked me a couple of times over my thin pants. But the bulk of my spankings ended around the age of 12, but my desire to be spanked has never gone away.

Now I'm married, and more than anything I'd like my husband to spank me whenever I get out of line. Not only when we're going to have sex, but whenever I act up. I've told him I want to be spanked, and he has tried a couple of times during intimate moments, but it felt too fake, and I think maybe he misinterpreted what I want.

I want real spankings. I want him to turn me over his knee and pull my pants and panties down and spank my bare bottom hard, no mercy. I want the signals or little threats on the way home that I'm going to get a spanking if I somehow made him mad when we were out, and I want them carried out when we get home. I want them anywhere...no matter what room of the house, on the couch, on a chair, bending over a bed, everything. He could even use a paddle and a belt if he wanted to.

The thing is, how do I talk to him and communicate this to him? I'm afraid to because I'm afraid of what he'll think of me. At the same time, it's torture to think of going the rest of my life without spankings, lol. Is there a way to talk to him and ease him into the kind of spankings I want? How do I describe to him the emphasis to put into his spankings?
Emma83 Emma83
26-30, F
2 Responses Dec 11, 2012

What you are wanting is called domestic discipline. There are a lot of here living that lifestyle. I see this is written in December- have things changed?

I feel the exact same way with my husband. I have brought it up a couple of times, but with no avail.

He doesn't have any interest, or is it that he wants to please you but doesn't know how or feels strange? My husband is the latter. He's aware I want it, he tried once or twice, but he really doesn't get it. I'm not asking for the little tap on the butt, etc. It's like he has to be taught 'how' to spank, which now makes me feel weird, lol. But, I guess if that's the way it has to be, I'll have to figure out a way to teach him :/

I think it is a bit of both. He knows that I like it in a pleasurable way, but doesn't understand that I want it in the other way. He also hates the idea of hurting me, and he thinks by giving me a punishment spanking or even a non foreplay spanking he is hurting me. Thus he is put off on the hole idea of it. He has tried to do it for me but it is never enough for me to feel fulfilled by it.