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If I want to explain to a man that I'm a virgin because I've been together with only girls before though he doesn't know that I'm bi and I don't know whether he'll like it.. should I explain at all?
GothGrrrl GothGrrrl 18-21, F 13 Responses Apr 12, 2007

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I do not think that I have met a man who isn't COMPLETELY turned-on that I have been with another woman. The down side: in HIS MIND he is thinking "Maybe I can have 'one of her friends' join us & I can HAVE a 3-way with 2 women"......so, the information you 'share' with a guy may be thought of one way or another. Maybe tell him "you have a friend" who is trying to decide if she should tell the guy she is seeing about her bi-sexual experiences. See what his reaction/answer is and it will likely give you some idea if you should give that information to him about yourself. <br />
????? hugs, <br />
suzy

I do not think that I have met a man who isn't COMPLETELY turned-on that I have been with another woman. The down side: in HIS MIND he is thinking "Maybe I can have 'one of her friends' join us & I can HAVE a 3-way with 2 women"......so, the information you 'share' with a guy may be thought of one way or another. Maybe tell him "you have a friend" who is trying to decide if she should tell the guy she is seeing about her bi-sexual experiences. See what his reaction/answer is and it will likely give you some idea if you should give that information to him about yourself. <br />
????? hugs, <br />
suzy

Here's the scoop: If he doesn't feed you, clothe you, or f*** you, he doesn't need to know. If he does one or more of those items with or to you, then he can earn the right to know.

is your hymen still intact? if no then your not a virgin. you just never had a penis, and there is a difference. but if you feel the need to explain then do so if not then dont its up to you, the guy will want you anyway and probably more so.

Virgin is a term that does not apply to just the body, its a way of life so it includes the whole package mind body and soul....experience in any areana takes that title out of the running in my book

everyone said be honest. i dotn need 2 repeat it.<br />
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i feel this was an apporpriate place to post it though- Poetry is the greatest metyhod of confession.<br />
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I'm bisexual myself. it took awhile to come out, and im not saying its easy, but if you want someone to know and dont know how they will react, do so in a poem. dont tell them its a confession either, just be like hey will you read this poem for me?<br />
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hopefully this helps :D good luck

It depends on what is wanted with the man. It is my experience that men love to talk dirty and consider any talk about virginity to be dirty. If you have a stubborn, redneck hick before you, he is probably going to see the virginity as a challenge and a chance to teach you that men are "better." <br />
I enjoy the attention I get from men when I talk dirty, but I want it to be in a safe place with a man that I know nearby just in case I find myself confronted by one of those stubborn, redneck hicks. Lord knows, at my age, I don't get much attention anymore.

I've been together with one guy since that and I told him right away that I'm bi and only have been together with girls but we didn't get so far as to having sex so it never really mattered... but i got to the conclusion that it's better to tell this to people i wanna be with... they should know everything...

I see that you posted this back in April. Do you have an update?

Very good advice above. I'm a living example of the ruin that duality can cause. By keeping my mouth shut I have internalized many poisons that have manifested into physical ailments. Be yourself in the beginning and you'll never have to compromise your identity.

Just tell him. Having the finality of him accepting you or rejecting you for it would be so much more stress and drama free than keeping it inside and letting it brew inside you.

Be yourself ... he might like it he might not but you wouldn't be living a lie

Tis better to be hated for who ya are , than loved for who you aren't..<br />
Personally I'd find it appealing under some circumstances lol,<br />
honesty is best, however I'd be sure there is cause for revelation.<br />
God luck.<br />
Dx