Very Unique Situation And I Have Zero Clue.

My wife and her dad died in a car accident over a year ago. At the time of her death I was 49 years old and she was 31. We also have 5 children (three from her previous marriage who are now 12, 10, and 9 and two that we had together that are 6 and 3)
My mother-in-law moved in with me and the kids shortly after the accident and has been here now for a year. She has been the glue that has helped keep everything together and I would never do anything intentional to disrupt that.
I really have no interest in dating at this time and cannot see myself looking for a new relationship anytime in the future. I am afraid this would disrupt the entire balance that we have as a family right now. I do however miss the intimacy that is involved between two adults. I am only 50 years old and cannot see myself going without sex for the rest of my life. I would never consider paying for casual encounters, and am afraid of health issues surrounding casual sexual encounters, and dating to find someone for some adult pleasure is too risky because of the possible emotional attachments that could develop, and again, I am afraid of undoing the balance that my family enjoys right now. My kids are extremely close to their grandmother and a relationship with another woman may possibly mean that she would have to leave our house which would devastate the kids.
My question is this- Would it be completely out of line for me to approach my mother-in-law about the possibility of the two of us enjoying some sexual intimacy together from time to time. She is actually only 9 1/2 years older than me. I do consider her a very attractive woman and she is probably more physically fit than me. She and my wife were very close and they used to talk about everything so I know that she and her husband always maintained a very healthy sex life and that she thouroughly enjoys sex as much as I do. From living here for the past year she sometimes now goes braless which used to be unheard of. I think this is not anything sexual, just that she is in a comfort zone with me now. Should I ask her what she thinks of the idea. It would be completely discreet and things could continue here as normal. (or is that just wishful thinking)
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Nov 28, 2012