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Soulmate

Growing up among the opposite sex ,i've always questioned whether or not their is a soul mate for everyone. I mean could there be a perfect match for me or you somewhere in this world ...I wonder the concept seizes to amaze me. But i guess the real question here is how far would you willing to go to find and attain that special someone?....do you even care?. Truthfully i believe money can buy one happiness and often people choose their pet as their ultimate companion or their occupation but i guess if it works then what's the big problem whatever helps you sleep at nigh right ? i wouldn't mind being independent for as long as i can just to enjoy the single life & my own company. Everyone has different goals & it's not like on your journey somewhere along the line you won't stumble into love, whenever wherever it's bound to happen, letting it in is where it gets complicated timing for example is not just right. But when you think about it the reality is after a long day especially after one that has been stressful  there's nothing like coming home to a person who desires to shower all their love and affection towards you and the intimacy let alone..... a glass of wine does the trick i can hear someone say or a one night stand to blow off the steam or a friends with benefits to fill the void. I can't comprehend how we could say a person is a drug , drives them crazy or makes it impossible for them to breathe. That list could go on and on so i suppose while i wrote this i realized that this is one of the reason's i fear to fall in love, i don't trust myself or the idea of becoming consumed by someone, the fact is though you can never be prepared when such a feeling takes over i just don't want to open my heart and end up wasting what i can offer only to a person who in the end is going to not be their for the long haul, seeing their true colours is their company and what they can have offer enough for me to settle contently. The beauty of friendship especially if you've known one another since birth and suddenly one day you see them in a whole in a new light,  you have nothing to loose with someone you have such a connection right? or do you? it's risky but see the benefit is you've seen their flaws and habits and as long as you've known them see if you can fully accept them, if it is a thought so far as marriage because you will see them everyday for a majority of your life together. In society , for the younger generation who go around throwing "i love you" like it is an everyday vocabulary slang word in their personal dictionary  Okay , so maybe it is & unfortunately it's freedom of speech but the concept itself is debatable let alone complex , i think people my age are just in love with the idea doing things that a REAL couple in love would do or their of it  and act like they are convincing themselves that they have have found what so many struggle to achieve, understandable if they don't receive it at home but if they get taken advantage then i don't know. All i can say is i hope well i believe we all deserve at least a taste of it, to be unconditionally devoted with one guy for my entire life if i could meet and be with just that one i would do it spare me the heartaches. I mean i wouldn't mind but that is a very rare thing to occur , be really lucky if you did have it happen to you. I myself have had my share of disappointment from the the guys I've come into contact with & no i have never been in relationship with any of them, something like one i always say, i would call them my conquests since i try to establish contact with them only to understand the way they operate and gain experience. Most recently the one i was strongly attracted to and potentially saw  a relationship with vanished but he being 19 it made sense besides he did have an on & off gf i came to know  & am not sure if i was wrong to assume he would probably just want me for momentary pleasure. Anyhow the sadness is something i never want to face again it was like a slap in the face of not being taken seriously, but it's unavoidable i stand to rather be the dumper opposed to the dumpee but fair share i will come to face. At such a young age i still have come to the decision that i prefer to focus on my studies, hobbies and maintain close relations at this point to when i finally establish myself,  to give it a try in the dating scene even more meaningfully a relationship.Of course it would be everlasting if there was one guy that would fulfill my every need and beyond makes me breakfast or have chivalry like 1 of those 80's fella's, but movies put huge pressure on the male gender entirely.

My conclusion people... don't loose hope rather keep your head high, don't lower your standards but don't be overpowering either and don't regret those you once loved cause  they teach you a lesson. Maybe not ever you think, 5-10-20 yrs from now, to wait can drive a person crazy but focus on yourself is just as important before letting someone else in. When we're young we engage in puppy love but as we age it gets more serious and worrisome with this uncertain emotion and how it both misery and blissful. But life is not meant to be easy, the way i see is you can strive through multiple relationships to you'll find who you've been looking for or wait till it stumbles upon you. But perhaps the biggest conflict is between your head and your heart, be careful not to be in love with the illusion of love....
livelymind livelymind 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 14, 2010

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I do believe in soul-mates, but i can't say whether there is one and only one soul-mate for you on this planet, for that i have a different theory.<br />
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Soul-mates means you two becomes one soul, although its just a concept because when you two are alive with two different bodies, you can't be joined in any way to make you one soul. But it means connected with your partner with not just social or physical bonding but with your heart(soul). Its about the such closeness of hearts between two that you can feel what they are thinking, feeling, wanting, etc.<br />
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There are two thing, the first is the chemistry/frequency/compatibility, it doesn't mean the common things/characteristics between you two, some differences may also contribute in making you two complete(made for each other).<br />
According to me two people can have a certain % of their matching in relation to best life partners, that you may try to calculate through horoscope, DNA compatibility, any other medical(brain frequencies, hormones, etc.) ba<x>sed, or any other spiritual way. Although its very difficult to find a 100% matching easily, i believe if you have found a certain level of matching say 70-80%, you can go along with them and the rest, the second thing will take care of. As it will also be foolish to search the whole population of planet for the best match or wait for god to send your mr/miss right directly on your date.<br />
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The second thing is true(& unconditional) love for "each other", this is very important in every relationship, lesser the matching, more the love is required to fill that gap. When you start loving someone unconditionally, you starts to like their every thing, even you ignores(or become blind to) the differences or their bad characteristics. The unconditional love should be from "both".<br />
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According to me, for any successful partnership(be it business or life), there can be two things working behind that, either they makes each other complete or there is an unconditional love between them. For example a business partnership can work between two persons without having any unconditional love among them, if they makes each other complete, like one knows the marketing best and the other production, but none can handle others department. if some day any one becomes able to manage others work, the partnership will no longer continue.<br />
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The people who say they have found their soul mate in each other have definitely made their matching % to 100 with the help of their unconditional love for each other. <br />
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So, the desire in both to love unconditionally is necessary to find your soul-mates, and also to run any partnership.<br />
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Best Wishes

after writing this all, i am thinking to re-post this as a separate story, with your permition madam, as this was originally written to answer your story.

Best Wishes

Thanks for your time.

No i don't mind be my guest, well ty for having the decency to ask, of course you too :)

On one end there can be none, not even ones self and on the other we can find as many. All depends on how we poise our soul. First we need to alLove love to enter. Once we entertain, we can then see which soul settles.

With proper spacing, your article could have been better to read.

Inviting you to read my stories for some inputs about soul mates.

Well thankyou for the personal insight you shared, fascinating to see from another's point of view. Also for the recommendation i appreciate , always had issues with writing though determined to improve that over time &amp; thanks i'll give it a look sometime for sure!

nothing is difficult, once you are determined. do you like writing?

That definately steers me in the right direction, yes i do short stories alot

@ clainetwin <br />
Well that's something i never heard before but makes me feel better. See that's what i was saying , it's another possibility to just find urself in that perfect moment. Lol that's funny but i can't see why not , again another sign of just time. Beautifully said , woah 40! make sure to tell my mom she seems to be loosing interest/hope in ever doing so. Reminds me of when i was younger , the boy who would tease me and mistreat me but deep down i knew he was interested. Oh definately , had my fair share --> My Sister Went Missing story i mean when i met him the first thing that i thought was criminal. Yea i find those are the desperate kind who try so hard to see past people's flaws blinding themselves from the person's true nature.

@stayley wise <br />
Sry i took so long to reply ! your welcome oh realli well i appreicate that. Yes i have given the past experiences i have had in the love department but unlike many teenagers my age i don't believe love exists in highschool i mean i myself don't really want to be tied down at such a young age. Same i could agree with that and yes i do for e.g friends that we're there all along but you never saw them in that light . That's one way to put but sometimes i believe it's just destiny , fate true i mean it's very rare to find one person who you love and will be with for the rest of your life but moving more then one well my only comment , debatable but i think it's possible to love one physically and one emotionally , wonder y some have affairs? ...<br />
Well it depends for me it's all a matter of time & holding onto to hope , you can have multiple relationships and keep going through losers, learn lessons to eventually finding the one or wait for a moment of the blue to spur and meet that special someone. That of course i don't what i'd do without my family , bth very wise line. Thankyou for your kindess and words of wisdom ;)

I found my soul mate doing everyday things. There was no looking involved and took me by surprise. You dont have to worry about finding or looking they seem to fall from the sky sometimes you may have known them for years and other times a short while. When the time comes for you and that person, you will find one another. It may be tomarrow, next year, or even when your 40. Just keep an open mind and remember not all are who they appear. Some may look like jerks and be sweethearts others the complete oppisite is true. If someone is interested give them a shot keep a look out for the creeps. If your instincts say dont trust them listen and most the time they wont lead you wrong (mine havent). Some dont listen to their instincts often enough and then wish they did when things dont go so well.