The Special Song(s) Of Me And My Husband

My husband's most treasured CD is Disintegration by The Cure. I am not sure but it may have been the first CD he bought. He is an older goth, I am a younger goth, and I started out with metal and then moved into goth. Anyway, we got engaged at the Cleveland Cure concert June 18th 2008(well, right before it, at the renaissance hotel in cleveland in the fancy restaraunt). So our song(s) are cure songs. Love Song is the first song we had when we were still dating, In Between Days was the second song we had when we were still dating, The Lovecats after being engaged, and then, Just like heaven. So those are our songs, all of them remain our songs. Why are those "our songs"? Furthermore, why does a couple, and how does a couple, have "songs" that are "theirs"? I used to wonder that, and also think it was a stupid phenomena/concept, before I had had the experience of dating someone with whom the reciprocal and mutual love was in a place that inspired him to cause me to understand. What is a couple's, "song"? I have only dated one guy besides my husband that I had a song with which my my first experience of this. Our song was, "crazy *****" by Buckcherry. It's a song that reminds you of the one you are in love with, which is then  "agreed" on, usually nonverbally(which I'll get to in a minute), as characterizing your relationship, or representing your relationship, which captures the feelings you have toward each other in the relationship for both people. The reason that me and my husband's songs are our songs is because when we hear them, they inspire us, and make us feel, a huge amount of love for each other, and makes us remember good memories and seems like it was made just for us, or is being played just for us, or is being dedicated to us, even when no one is dedicating it. And I want to explain it because I want people who used to be like me to understand why it is important or just a really great thing. At times when we have been fighting, if the song suddenly comes on in the car or in a store, we suddenly cannot fight anymore or make up, and yes I am serious!! And it is not just that, it's the fact that one of "our" songs, will start playing while we are together or something important with us is going on, COINCIDENTALLY, RANDOMLY, and in very unlikely circumstances!! A radio station or public store or restaraunt or bar or just anywhere, which usually does not play the song, or where the song is not remotely related to the other songs that have been playing, where it is out of character for the song to be playing, will start playing it!! And it is creepy, amazing, and obviously a message to us or a blessing to our relationship from some higher power. We have a mutual history with the song where when it is on, we will start singing with it, dancing to it, or just we cannot refrain from getting all cuddly or kissing when it plays!!! Also, the songs me and my husband have are the only ones he has ever danced with me to. My husband hates dancing and it is REALLy hard to get him to dance(well, OR sing!) and even if I try to make him he will do it for 2 seconds(dance or sing) like he is joking or it is stupid, then stop. But then when these particular songs play, the change is amazing because suddenly he will start singing and dancing with me and I can tell he not only fully enjoys it but it is like it comes naturally to him for that one song at least!!! Sometimes I will be putting on my makeup, distracted, or doing dishes, and he will come up and start singing the words to me or pulling me to dance!!! lol sometimes I will be pissed at him or having a really bad day which has nothing to do about him and the song will come on, or pop in my head from nowhere. It really is just like absolute magic!! And each of our songs has its own little personality or has its own feeling, whether sentimental and tender and slower(yeah, I know...but it is), or joyful and happy and upbeat and faster. The songs we have together remind us of how much we love each other and why we love each other and bring us closer together. 

SummerWind18 SummerWind18
26-30, F
2 Responses Feb 10, 2010

One of the best albums EVER! <br />
A big influence for my music..<br />
thanks so much for sharing this great story. :)

One of the best albums EVER! <br />
A big influence for my music..<br />
thanks so much for sharing this great story. :)