I Have A Theory...

There seems to be a lot of worrying and puzzlement from guys who have this urge. I think of it as being quite natural and primal. Among the instincts which are this natural and primal are the urge to put things in one's mouth (observe babies of a certain age), and of course the sex drive.

Given a basically hetero- and monogamous male, he typically has "at his disposal" the potential for oral contact with every possible erogenous zone-- except his (or someone's like his) own. Unless he's a circus contortionist or just bloody lucky to be that limber, he can't do himself. His female partner, on the other hand, has all the other equipment he could ever want to put his mouth on, including breasts that aren't simply vestigial.

The **** & balls are all that remain, unavailable to him in a typical sexual relationship.

We always want what we 'can't' have! So we're driven to complete our oral exploration however we can.

Anyway, that's my story/theory/excuse & I'm stickin' to it! ;-)
badonkadoku badonkadoku
46-50, M
6 Responses Jul 22, 2010

Your orientation is a fluid (excuse the pun) continuum, not an absolute binary condition. That said, I also have too much self-respect to troll CL...

I keep wondering about the emotional aspect. The thoughts I may have when I'm at the last stages of "being straight": that last inch before I take another male's member into my body for the first time. Will I hesitate? Chicken out? Will I feel that I've "crossed over" and can never go back? Will I feel ashamed ro guilty? Or will I become "addicted to d**k", one of those pathetic CL stalkers out begging for whatever MM contact I can get? I know myself, but I don't know me as a preacticing bisexual.

I've had the invitation, but the party is far in the future, for practical & geographic reasons.

We really shouldn't feel we have to explain or label it. I'm not attracted to men, either, but am drawn to the fountain also!

Thanks! I've been thinking about this, and it just (heh heh) came to me this afternoon. I wanted to explain my thoughts without referring to Freud, as he is rather outdated and discredited, if I understand correctly.

I totally agree! I couldnt have put better myself